Love and what's it supposed to be..

"Love is like a butterfly.
The more you chase it, themore it eludes you..
But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expexct it..
Love can make you happy but it hurts,
but love is only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it..
So take your time and chose the best.."

"Love isn't about becoming somebody else's 'perfect person'..
It's about finding someone who helps you became the best person you can be.."

"The true measure of Compatibility is not the years spent together,,
but how good you are for each other.."

"Love is not about 'it's ur fault', but 'i'm sorry'..
Not 'where are you', but 'i'm right here'..
Not 'how could you', but 'I understand'..
Not 'I wish you were', but 'i'm thankful you are'"...

"Heartbroken last as long as you want
and cut as deep as you allow them to go..
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks..
But to Learn from them.."

"How to be in love::
Be consistent but not too persistent,,
Share and never be unfair,,
Understand and try not to demand..
And get hurt but never keep the feeling.."

"It breaks my heart to see the one you love
Happy with someone else...
But it's more painful to know that the one you love
Is UnHappy with you.."

"Love hurts when you break up wtih someone..
It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you..
But Love Hurts the Most:
When the person you love has no idea how you feel about him/her"

"A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fal in love,,
only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be,,
and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn'y worth it..
If that person isn't worth it now,,
it's not going to be wort it a year or 10 years from now.."

"My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is:
Honest, strong, mature, never changing, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish..."

Q & A about Life

Question:
How can I love someone without expecting that he/she is going to love me too?

Answer:
Real love is patient; unselfish and entails sacrifice. Kumbaga, kapag totoong mahal mo ang isang tao, you will just want what’s best for the other person – even if the “best” for that person does not include you. Like a text message sa cellphone kaya may space ung mga kamay natin kasi there’s someone out there in the universe that will fill that empty space, ‘wag kang magmadali.

Question:
How can you know if he/she is the one or the one you will be with forever?

Answer:
People say get to know the person, spend time with the person. TLW says get to know God the author of love. Spend time everyday with God asking if this is the person. He’ll show you. Just trust Him!

Question:
How will you know that you’re in love (true love)?

Answer:
Kapag in love ka daw, you’re not your usual self, medyo kakaiba ang mga kilos, parang wala sa sarili. You find yourself daydreaming, yung mukha niya laging sumasagi sa isip mo. The mere mention of the person’s name makes your heart leap. Hehe. Sorry to disappoint you friends pero, that’s not the nature of TRUE LOVE. Ang tawag dun ay ‘infatuation’.
They say LOVE is a many splendored thing it’s correct, because the one who puts LOVE in our heart is a Splendor, Wonderful, Mighty and Awesome GOD. And if you know Him, He will show you and guide you in finding TRUE LOVE.

Question:
Is it possible to fall in love in a short period of time?

Answer:
Sa panahon ngayon we are bombarded with different ideas, thoughts about LOVE kahit saan, sa text, sa internet, sa kapitbahay, kahit kanino pwede tayong makakakuha ng sagot sa tanong mo. Ako rin siyempre if you have a Bible with you open it at ECCLESIASTES 3 entitles A TIME FOR EVERYTHING. Sa verse 8 sabi niya, “He sets the time for love and time for hate, the time for war and the time for peace…” I myself cannot tell you if you’re gonna be in love in a short period of time but I know the One who can tell you: it’s GOD Himself. Do you wanna know how? You need to pray for it. Ask Him and He’ll gladly answer you back and as for me hindi naman tayo lumabas sa mundo na matanda na agad, dumaan din tayo sa pagiging bata, teenager, blah, blah… ganon din ang pag-ibig, hindi yan INSTANT FASTFOOD… niluluto po ang pag-ibig parang adobo - habang tumatagal sumasarap!!!

Question:
How can you avoid being jealous if you love someone?

Answer:
First ask yourself the question, “Why am I jealous?” Jealousy is rooted in fear - or more specifically - insecurity. You may be insecure that your girlfriend thinks the hunk sa kabilang bahay has bigger biceps than you. If you truly love and trust your girlfriend, you wouldn’t be jealous. If your girlfriend can’t be trusted because she IS cheating, well… that’s another story. Sometimes, your jealousy can be dispelled just by clearing things up with the person you love. Make sure that you’re not overreacting… be objective and don’t be afraid to ask them para maiwasan ang gulo sa una pa lang. Pinsan niya pala yung kapitbahay

After getting into a serious and intimate talk about Zen Buddhism, I came to realize that in order for a person to be happy and contented one must live with the present, and not with the past nor with the future. Ever wondered why people always tend to hurt the ones they love, and themselves as well? Let’s take an example. There’s this stranger in the park. He is writing about his/her life (with his self as the center of the story). You are there on the other side, writing your own story (with your self as the center of the story). Would you care to know what that stranger is writing about? Obviously not for he/she is nobody. But what if that person wasn’t a stranger, let’s say he or she is your boyfriend/girlfriend, would you care? Of course, who would not? (well that goes for all the self-centered people in this world). There’s this stigma embedded in our tiny twisted brains that we are created to make an impact on this other person’s life. We want to be appreciated and all that sort of wanting including the desire to be at the center of his or her life. But man, come to think of it, the only person who will be in the center of ones life is himself or herself. You cannot and must not try to change this fact because it is something that can’t be altered. Everything that a person would desire and long for will be at all times for the benefit of his or her own self. Mark that. Every negative emotion that we feel, angst, stress, jealousy, etc. is caused by this SELFish desire, or simply by our SELF. So what do we do now? Simple, detach our “self” from ourSELVES. Instead of thinking too much about the how miserable our past and how our future will go (to apply it to the succeeding questions, let me retate it, how our future with this someone will go), it will be better if we just act on impulse and disregard all biases. If you feel like doing something, do it but do it with compassion (compassion=as long as nobody will be bothered by your act). Treat this other person as if he was just a stranger. Try to look at the situation/ event without that “special” person (again, there is bias if you’d treat him or her special) as society is not all about people but rather a correlation of events. It is basically event vs. person. In Zen Buddhism, you regard the event as the basis for making decisions and not the person involved in the event. You base your decisions on the situation, no regrets whatsoever. For example, somebody stepped on your foot. For sure if the perpetrator was a stranger you’d be red in anger but if it was your sweetie you wouldn’t care at all. Stupid, huh? The act was painful so act like it was painful. If in these events you would usually be angry then be. However, the ideas in Zen Buddhism aren’t the same as the lame idea of “going with the flow and living life”, it is a totally different philosophy. Hence, one doesn’t have to try to deal with the situation because as he/she does, he or she would have to think (again) and from there complications will be formed (once again). There, I think this is enough for now as the lecture was really long. I haven't gotten the idea of Zen perfectly yet, nor have i practiced it already but by merely looking at the examples set by my friend, I am convinced that this philosphy would truly make our lives worry free.

Question:
How can I love someone without expecting that he/she is going to love me too?

Answer:
(see above) Don’t think about the future. Don’t over analyze things, you’re thinking about the future when you can’t even make your present right. Live for today, that will be less stressful. For those in a relationship, and are troubled because they “feel” that they aren’t important and loved, cut the crap. You’re an individual and you would still be an individual even without having that someone to “love” you.

Analogy:
If all people on Earth will be dead. Would Earth still be existent? Of course, there’s Jupiter without people eh. Here’s the thing: If he/she treats you well, treat him/her well. If he/she gives you love, give him/her love. But if he/she doesn’t, don’t give anything either. -> from Hershey.

Question:
How can you know if he/she is the one or the one you will be with forever?

Answer:
Sorry but I don’t believe that there’s such thing as forever. We’re mortals for Pete’s sake. :)

Question:
How will you know that you’re in love (true love)?

Answer:
Only the person can tell. I don’t even want to think about it, I’d rather feel it to prove it is real. Compassion is the key. =p

Question:
Is it possible to fall in love in a short period of time?

Answer:
No comment.

Question:
How can you avoid being jealous if you love someone?

Answer:
Again, jealousy roots from thinking and making false assumptions. Like I said, stop thinking too much. But I must agree, trust is something that we should try to keep and to give to those worthy of it.

crossing paths with you was a coincidence,, i'll never regret nor forget coz you were one of those wonderful people i dreamed of having,, i'm so thankful that once in my life's journey,, i found you...

"...it hard to love someone, who's in love with someone else you have to ignore the pain and swallow your pride just to be a friend, but it all worth it coz sometimes friendship lasts longer than love...."

Love Actually

Once upon a time, there was a woman, who had a conversation with God. And it went something like this…

Woman: Lord, I’ve been the wedding planner for my dream nuptials since high school. I’m graduating right now, never been kissed, and still longing for my first romance. I won’t be forever young, you know.

God: Child, somewhere in time, I wrote everyone’s love story:

• Adam asked, “When did You create this perfect woman?,” and I said, “while you were sleeping.”
• For Kate and Leopold, he was her first knight.
• When Harry met Sally, he had learn many things in courtship,’twas almost like groundhog day, but their relationship ended always. There’s no formula, but I promise your love story will be as good as it gets.
  

W: Well, you’ve always been right. Hope floats. Lord, please don’t let me go through 50 first dates with true love remaining far and away.

G: I’ve been working on it. I just eliminated the 3 musketeers: Shrek, who only wanted a French kiss. Don Juan de Marco, always thinking of dirty dancing. And Robin Hood, who is such an untamed heart.

W: Puwede huwag naman pong parang beauty and the beast kami?

G: Child, you’re a pretty woman inside. He’ll be no ghost.

W: Can it start with a walk to remember?

G: (Smiling) Your true love won’t be at first sight, but it’ll be quite a phenomenon when you get up close and personal. He’ll have sense and sensibility, be a cutting edge guy and a good family man. Stay tune with my Word, pray, listen to other Christians. For one fine day…your top gun will be at the altar uttering the words “only you.”

W: Promise it’s going to be a walk in the clouds?

G: Ever after

W: (Beaming) Life is beautiful.

THE END

Can you relate to the article? (sighs) The point of the matter is, God wants you to have the BEST not the second best. He is not yet finish writing your love story. He is still preparing someone for you. Now, are you willing to wait?

With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgement.

Proverbs 3:5

how we loved each other that much, too much that it didnt work..

sometimes, we get hurt so much that each time we see the person who gave us pain, we see a flashback of what happened in our past.. every tear, every heartbreak that it gave us.. and each time we do, all we could remember is - how we loved each other that much, too much that it didnt work -

if it happens, it damn happens.. if it wasnt meant, it certainly doesnt.. dont push through, just let go.. dare not mock yourself chasing and caressing someone who didnt even care to understand you.. it sucks, ait? but it sucks a lot if you dont give up.. love, value and care for yourself.. coz if you wont nobody would..

When “FRIENDS” become more….

From: unknown source

Falling in love with someone whose been close to you is a very common scenario. It isn’t surprising that you would fall in love with your friend. After all, that friend is already someone you like and whom you feel comfortable. It is often someone you already spend a great deal of time with someone with whom you spent a thousand of hours on the internet. You know this person likes and dislikes, concerns, and deepest insecurities. And this person knows yours.
So what’s the problem?
Well, first of all, these feelings are not always mutual, the friend may want to remain just that – a friend. There is also discomfort that occurs when the other person knows you feel “differently”. Oftentimes he or she feels guilty or maybe even threatened. Whatever it is that the other is feeling, it can still become very complicated.
Once again, honesty is always the best policy, even if it seems like being honest will mess things up, possibly even destroy a perfect good friendship, it is always the best way to go. In the long run, you won’t regret it.
I know of many times when friends have become girlfriend and boyfriend and everyone ended up happy. But even when the relationship thing doesn’t work out, with honesty, the friendship can survive and even become stronger.
So, if you like your friend, as more than a friend, hang in there. Don’t give up hope, because things will work out, one way or another.

15 LAWS FOR WOMEN:

Don’t imagine you can change a man – unless he’s in diapers
What do you do if your boyfriend walks out?? – shut the door.
If they put a man on the moon – they should be able to put them all up there.
Never let your man’s mind wander.
Go for younger men.
Men are all the same – they just have different faces.
Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some women miserable. Women don’t make fools of men.
The best way to get a man to do something – suggest they’re too old for it.
10. Love is blind – but marriage is a real eye opener.
11. If you want a committed man – look in a mental hospital.
12. The children of Palestine wandered around the desert for 40 years, even in biblical times, men wouldn’t ask for directions.
13. If he asks what sort of books you’re interested in, tell him “checkbooks”
14. Remember a sense of humor does not men that you tell him jokes; it means that you laugh at his.
15. Sadly, all men are created equal.

MEN.

For all those men who say, "Why buy a cow, when you can get milk for free? Here's an update for you: Now days, 80% of women are against marriage. WHY? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!!!

MEN are like....
1. Men are like.......Laxatives .......They irritate the crap out of you.
2. Men are like....... Bananas.......The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like....... Weather.......Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like.......Blenders .......You need one, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like....... Chocolate Bars.......Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like....... Commercials ........You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like....... Department Stores.......Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like....... Government Bonds.......They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like.......Mascara .......They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like....... Popcorn.......They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like....... Snowstorms.......You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like.......Lava Lamps .......Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like....... Parking Spots.......All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

you have a heart.

if a person gives great advices, it doesnt mean he's not capable of doing any mistake..

if a person doesnt show any signs of weakness, it doesnt mean he's not afraid of anything..

if a person always displays a sweet smile, ir doesnt mean that person doesnt know how to be sad and to cry..

and..

if a person tells you he/she is okay after a heartbreak, it doesnt mean he/she finally moved on..

remember that having a facade of a clown, doesnt mean you're really happy and numb for all the pain the world gives you..

coz you have this one thing that sets you apart from a stone....

a heart..ÜÜ

Mystified by what goes on in a guy's head? He probably doesn't make it easy -- sending you a note one day and then teasing you the next.

Check out these clues that he's into you!

1. He makes excuses to be around you. You really think he wanted to help you clean out your family's garage? This guy wants to be near to you, no matter what he's gotta do!
2. He clams up when you're cruisin' by. Sure, he's known as the class clown, but when you're near, he's tongue-tied. Chances are his sweating and stuttering is due to the fact that he's fallen for you!
3. He stares at you. So you constantly check your make-up and blow your nose, wondering, "is there something wrong with me?" Stop being a paranoid and give him a little smile.
4. He pops up in unexpected places. All at the sudden he's at your pal's house, your school - hardly a coincidence. This guy's wanting to know more about you. Try asking, "so what brings you here?"
5. He notices little details about you. He comments on a change in your nail polish or a new pair of sneaks - and he always has something sweet to say about it. This guy wants you to know he's paying attention.
6. His friends ask your friends if you like him. This is the biggest giveaway that a boy's into you. He's just too shy or worried abuot what you'll say to do the asking himself. Time for you to fess up!
7. He e-mails/IMs/calls you for the smallest reasons. Wether its about any non sense things, he's got a million excuses to talk to you. Don't worry if your conversation doesn't last longer than a few minutes 'cause it sounds like he's just working up the courage to ask you out!

"If anything is real, the heart will make it plain."

There are some people who meet that somebody that they can never stop loving, no matter how hard they try. I wouldn't expect you to understand that, or even believe it, but trust me, there are some love that don't go away. And maybe that makes them crazy, but we should all be blessed to end up with that somebody who has a little of that insanity.Somebody who never lets go. Somebody who cherishes you forever.

Hope you find this kind of love in your life.

Things Guys Should Know About Girls

1. Don't ever lie to us. We always find out.
2. We don't enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.
3. Don't say you understand when you don't.
4. Girls are pretty, but your girl is the prettiest!
5. You don't have PMS. Don't act like you know what it's like.
6. Saying something sweet might get you of the hook. Doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
7. If you talk about having a big dick, we know you don't.
8. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls who want relationships.
9. We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big.
10. A system in your car only impresses your homeboys---not us.
11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe. (I don't believe this AT ALL.)
12. It's good to be sensitive, sometimes.
13. If you did something wrong (or even if you didn't), apologize.
14. Be spontaneous. Dinner and a movie won't always cut it.
15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it.
16. We are drama queens. (Hell, yeah!)
17. Fashion police do exist.
18. Don't ask us to give head. If you are nice you might just get it.
19. We do not care about monster trucks, car systems, paintball, or anything else you and your friends talk about.
20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
21. We don't shave our legs everyday so get over it.
22. Don't make bets about us; we always find out.
23. Shave; no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache is, we hate it.
24. Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emitt other strange gases from your body, it is not.
25. Don't compare our breasts with Pamela Anderson's; hers are fake, just remember that (You have a bigger shot at ours than you ever will with hers.).
26. It is not cool to shoot snot rockets.
27. We are beautiful at all times.
28. We will always think we're fat, so humor us and tell us we aren't.
29. You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big fat guys, and hit a baseball with a stick, so why the hell can't you piss in the toilet and not on it?
30. Most importantly: we are always right. And don't you forget it.

Love Is Not Something You Can Buy

Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there... you´ll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...and don´t rush things....coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."

You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be perfect... but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God..... that´s why we have marriage..it´s a bond not only between you and your loved one....but also with God.

Our relationships fail not because (s)he´s not the right person.... it´s because we expected too much and we decided on our own.... let God do the work...you may call it waiting time....but while you are waiting...pray. Let God guide you always...He knows better. No, He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is.... Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we´re in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received..." After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You are the biggest mistake i´ve ever made for my entire life...!!!!". Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?.

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc." would end up "Never" and "We should part ways, I´m no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!". Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree "S/He ain´t the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?"

That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don´t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You´re right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there´s a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you´re too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don´t give it a try. You´ll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don´t go deeper into it. You´ll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life. It´s really hard to say goodbye though, but you can´t make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can´t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, its just pity. We call it love when we´re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we´re too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn´t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can´t touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can´t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don´t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

the wedding vow

Cristina, I could promise to hold you and to cherish you. I could promise to be there in sickness and in health. I could say 'til death do us part.

But I won’t.

Those vows are for optimistic couples, the ones full of hope, and I do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope. I am not optimistic. I am not hopeful.

I am sure. I am steady.

And I know that I’m a hard man. Take them apart, put them back together, I hold them in my hands. I am a hard man. So this, I am sure, you are my partner, my lover, my very best friend. My heart, my heart beats for you, and on this day, the day of our wedding, I promise you this:

I promise you to lay my heart in the palm of your hands.

I promise you ME.

- Dr. Preston Burke
Grey's Anatomy, Season 3 Episode 25

This is what marriage is really all about:

He ordered one hamburger, one order of French fries and one drink. The old man unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half. He placed one half in front of his wife. He then carefully counted out the French fries, dividing them into two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife.

He took a sip of the drink, his wife took a sip and then set the cup down between them. As he began to eat his few bites of hamburger, the people around them kept looking over and whispering. You could tell they were thinking, "That poor old couple - all they can afford is one meal for the two of them."

As the man began to eat his fries a young man came to the table. He politely offered to buy another meal for the old couple. The old man said they were just fine - They were used to sharing everything.

The surrounding people noticed the little old lady hadn't eaten a bite. She sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally taking turns sipping the drink.

Again the young man came over and begged them to let him buy another meal for them. This time the old woman said "No, thank you, we are used to sharing everything."

As the old man finished and was wiping his face neatly with the napkin, the young man again came over to the little old lady who had yet to eat a single bite of food and asked "What is it you are waiting for?"

She answered :

"THE TEETH." =P

Why do people say life is short?

when its the longest of them all

why does life give you heartbreak?

but not expect you to fall

Life has great characters

but a complicated story

each person's life is different

tears, laughs and the glory

but life has a meaning

but the answer cant be told

one day we will work it out

when we are tired and old

++++++++

Sometimes you just look around,

find yourself people who are much better than you,

maybe its always been like that,

and maybe its not just you............

Your always around your friends,

but somehow they just don't care,

they're all ignoring you,just all of them.....

When your not yourself,

people don't like you,

cause all of them know,

your not you,

point is even if,

you were you,

would they care??.....

In this world,

you only get to live once,

so why not make the best of it,

instead of living it the way you'd regret it...

Someone out there was
Meant to be the love of your life.
The one you can tell your dreams to
And he'll smile at you when you do,
But he'll never laugh.
He'll brush your hair out of your face
And stare at you during a movie
Even though he paid $8 dollars
To see it. He'll call you to tell you
He couldn't stop thinking about you.
And most importantly, he'll look
Right in your eyes and tell you
That you're the most beautiful girl
He has ever seen and for the
First time in your life, you are
Going to believe it.

1. Love comes not from the brain, but from the heart... it has no reason nor cause..

2. Love is always a surprise.. it hits you at the most unexpected time, place, person and situation..

3. Never love because of need but because of want..

4. True love is a rare gift thus when found, treasure it...

5.Love is never about playing it safe... it's about RISKS!!!!

6. The perfect person doesn't exist... there are only people perfect for each other...

7. There will always come a time that we have to stop loving someone, not because the person started hating us but because we run out of reasons to fight for what we feel inside...

8. Keep a piece of your heart for yourself...

9. When love fails, cry..but you must know when to stop! pick yourself up and MOVE ON!!!

10. Learn to accept the fact that some things are really not meant to be...

do you know what girls want?
we want real conversations & love.
we want cute dates together, nothing expensive.
the truth is we only want to be with you.
we want to hold hands & lie beneath the stars
we want to be able to say something stupid
& not worry about it & we want a guy that will
love us for nothing but being us,
real plain & simple.

Choices and Consequences If You Think Saying No Is Tough

A Woman's Poem

When I met him;

I liked him.

When I liked him,

I loved him.

When I loved him

I let him.

When I let him,

I lost him

A Man's Poem

I saw her, I liked her.

I loved her,

I wanted her.

I asked her; She said

NO.

I married her.

After sixty years,

I still have her.

Love isn't suppose to be easy. It's suppose to be worth it.

One does not 'fall in' or 'out' of love. One grows in love.

Love is like quicksand. The farther you fall into it, the harder it is to get out.

Life without love isn't life at all.

Love flies, runs, and rejoices. It is free and nothing can hold it back.

Love Notes 15: Between Love and Friendship

Dear Joe,

Just call me Anna. I'm a fine arts student in a long-term and happy relationship. But I am tormented right now by some feelings that I cannot explain.

While I've been in a satisfying five-year relationship, I have this friend that I have feelings for. He's special but I never told him that for fear of losing our friendship. But it sometimes feels like he has some feelings for me, too. Joe, if that is true, how does one know for sure?

My friend and I used to be classmates before we became very close friends. All this time, I have told myself that it was nothing but friendship. But when my boyfriend and I broke up, this friend was always there for me. He helped me through those three months of sadness. In fact our classmates thought that he was courting me because he would always bring me home in his car. But to me, it was just an act of generosity. Besides, we'd always go as a group. I'd often stay in the back seat with our other friends. Often I'd see

him staring at me from the car's rear view mirror. When I'd catch his eye, he'd shift his glance to our other friends. He would also treat me out often and take me to places with beautiful scenery. When we were new friends, he told me how he envied my boyfriend for having a girl like me.

When my boyfriend came back to me, my friend continued to send me sweet messages that made my boyfriend jealous. He became a constant source of discord between us. While I defended him for being just a friend, deep inside I knew that I felt something for him. He has no girlfriend, and my other friends say it is probably because of me. But this friend would firmly answer in the negative. It was his choice and besides, he says, he doesn't have plans of stealing somebody else's girl. But he remains silent about his feelings. If actions do speak louder than words, what should my conclusion be?

I don't have any plans to break up with my boyfriend, for my family likes him a lot and that matters to me. All I want to know, just before graduating, is if I am special to this friend in the way that he is special to me. Joe, is this love or friendship?

Yours truly,

Anna

Dear Anna,

Sometimes the line that separates friendship and love becomes obscure because our emotion crosses beyond that which is spoken, and expresses itself openly in actions and gestures that speak more of love than friendship.

Honestly, I believe that your friend is very fond of you. It pleases him to see you happy and he takes it upon himself to be responsible for your safety. He likes to secretly stare at you because you occupy a special place in his heart. He could have had everything set out perfectly, except for one thing. He never told you what it all meant. He never said what he truly feels for you. He is a classic example of a man who has a very big heart but a very small voice.

Anna, I know that you have a feeling that he likes you too. You just need affirmation that what you feel is true. I don't see anything wrong in that. What I am afraid of is what happens if you find out that it is true, that he could have been loving you from a distance all these years.

You could be missing an opportunity to be fair to yourself. All I can say is that you shouldn't stay with your boyfriend simply because your family likes him. You should stay with him because you love him. But if you are caught between your strong feelings for your best friend and your commitment to your boyfriend then you've got a lot of thinking to do. Remember, love sometimes sneaks up from the most surprising places at the most unexpected time. Let us just make sure that we are able to make sensible decisions when that happens because sometimes it is the love by accident and not the love that was contemplated that takes hold of our hearts and keeps it forever.

love quotes

♥ I sometimes feel a little jealous inside imagining someone could please you more than me. I guess it's my insecurity acting up a bit Because i know i'm not the most beautiful. Most fun, or even the most exciting person, you'll ever meet but I do know that no matter. How hard and long you search you will never find a girl, who loves you and cares about you the way I do ..

♥ I don't want a guy who wouldn't have the courage to actually talk to me in school, and then say I love you online. I want a guy who will talk to me in school when he has a chance, say I love you in school, and Wraps his arms around my waist and then people will say wow, they look so cute together.

♥ There's nothing like the deep breaths after laughing that hard. Nothing in the world like a sore stomach for the right reasons

♥ As youu grow older, it gets harder just to believe. It's not that you don't want to, but too much has happened. - so true

♥ It's the days we sit around and do nothing. It's the moments we laugh so hard we cry. It's the way we look at each other and know what's going through our heads. It's the stupid pictures and inside jokes. They're the reason we're inseparable. - AWW

♥ In life, you have two loves ..one who changes the way you see yourself and the world and the other puts you back together...after you have lost the first

Every Girl's Dream

1. Get kissed in the rain
2. Have that one hot kiss where you`re pressed against the wall
3. Have a guy that thinks you're the world
4. Have a guy that holds on as long as possible when giving hugs
5. A boy that whispers he loves you in your ear
6. Have that moment where you just gaze into each other's eyes
7. When you cry, he kisses your tears away.
8. When you're not with your guy he's all that you can think about
9. Wearing his jacket and everytime you breath in, his scent surrounds you
10. A guy who will watch any movie with you, no matter how teary eyed you may get.
11. A guy who squeezes your hand
12. A boy that says he loves you and means it
13. A guy that will play her favorite song outside her window
14. A guy who is loyal
15. A guy that will sing to you no matter how bad he is at it.
16. A guy that will kiss you on the forehead.
17. A guy that will call you beautiful or adorable...not hot, fine, or sexy
18. A guy that will never judge you for how you look.
19. A boy that says cheezy stuff to you just to make u smile
20. A boy that is the same when he is with you and when with friends
21. A boy that tells you everything honestly
22. A boy that is good with your family and introduces you to his family
23. A guy that will always let you win -- nah
24. A guy who stands up for you no matter who it is against
25. A guy who calls you at night just to say 'hi' and see how your day has been
26. A boy who tells you that your smile makes his day and makes everything better
27. A boy who will sit on the phone with you when you're sad, even if you're quiet
28. A boy who you can hangout and have fun with
29. A boy that will just randonmly call you for no reason at all, just because he missed you
30. A guy who will hold your hand through the roughest parts of life.

Irony of True Love

Isn’t it ironic how almost everyone subject themselves to emotional anxiety and pains, in search of the so called one true ‘LOVE’, when in fact nobody can ever provide one (and universally accepted) definition of this word?... when nobody can guarantee an end when the journey begins? Isn’t it ironic how one person can make you so miserable to the extent of doubting your sense of self-worth and feeling impotent, when there standing behind you are countless people who believes in you and values you so much in their life?

Isn’t it stupid that we allow one person whom we barely know and whom we just met, to destroy the fruits of our past and to dictate our future by investing all our emotions in the belief that he can provide the happiness that we would need to last our lifetime? Isn’t it amazing how society makes us believe that this one person will be enough to make us abandon the joys from the people who really loved us and those who molded us into the very person that made this one person love us in the first place?

Isn’t it unbelievable that we rely on one person to measure our importance through the number of phone calls, text messages, e-mails, chocolates or flowers that we receive, when there are people whom we call family and friends who never fail to make us feel so important? Doesn’t it astonish you how one failed relationship suddenly destroys the pride, confidence and wisdom we have carefully collected and owned from the people and events in our past... the foundations that made up the person that you really were?

Isn’t it so stupid that we forget about everything we believed in, how easily we lose our faith in love just because of one jerk who, to his misfortune, didn’t recognize true love when it was in front of him?

Isn’t it amazing how we punish ourselves and how we choose to stay in misery, when joy is just one step ahead of us, just because of one mistake (of love) to which we also happen to be the victim?

So I ask, why do we have to do this to ourselves?

When NOBODY but you knows who you really are and how valuable you are? So please, never allow any jerk to make you believe otherwise.

MISTAKES, never be ashamed of them for we all commit one. Love, after all, is about acceptance. Those who cannot accept you for who you are do not deserve your love, simply because he is not capable of giving you the love that you deserve.

"sometimes it is so easy to think of giving up on someone we love. but the real measure of love is in choosing to stay in a relationship even when there seems to be no reason left for us to. when we cannot find a reason to love someone anymore, then that is the time when we have to teach ourselves to love some more, and give some more."

Lala-Love

• As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product.
• Our true identity is to love without fear and insecurity. Our higher potential finds us when we set our course in that direction. The power of love and compassion transforms insecurity.
• Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you.
• Enthusiasm created from the heart is the spirit of the matter. It ignites your whole system so there's no drag, no resistance, no thoughts like "Do I have to?" coming from the head to sabotage the power of your surrender.
• Love is not automatic. It takes conscious practice and awareness, just like playing the piano or golf. However, you have ample opportunities to practice. Everyone you meet can be your practice session. - i just hope its automatic, no practice sessionsssssss =p
• True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
• Love is fire. But whether it's gonna warm your heart or burn your house down you can never tell.
• Divine Love always has met and always will meet every human need.
• Perfect love is rare indeed - for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain.
• Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart. And try to love the questions themselves.
• If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with. - yeah yeah yeah.
• Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
• Trouble is part of your life — if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you a chance to love you enough.
• True love never lives happily ever after - true love has no ending.
• Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much perfoms much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.
• In all that we do let us do it for love.
• You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
• Love fails, only when we fail to love.
• To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another. - ehh??
• The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident.
• If you don't have it here (pointing to the heart), it doesn't matter what you've got here (pointing at the head). - yup! sevice :)
• Fear less, hope more, eat less, chew more, whine less, breathe more, talk less, say more, love more, and all good things will be yours. - no stress, steady lang =p
• Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. - nice right?
• To be loved, be lovable.
• Don't forget to love yourself.
• Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.
• Talk not of wasted affection; affection never was wasted.
• What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.
• We can do no great things; only small things with great love.
• In science as in love, too much concentration on technique can often lead to impotence.
• To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.
• Don't fall in love with somebody who doesn't love you back (it's not cool). - haha, sama eh =p
• Trust, Love & Keep Moving (Growing)
• There are no guarantees. From the viewpoint of fear, none are strong enough. From the viewpoint of love, none are necessary.

Love by Joe D' Mango

What hurts most?

...when you can't fight for that one thing that would make you happy...
...I may never be the guy you look forward to seeing every day...
...but I will always be the guy who will look out for you each and every day...

Sad Girl: "don't make me feel that i'm just a selfish jerk just because I made you cry"!

Sad Guy: "then don't make me feel like I did nothing for you when I almost died crying just to see you smile..."

Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. And some ask ourselves: Will our actions echo across the centuries?

Will strangers hear our names long after we are gone, and wonder who we were, how bravely we fought, how fiercely we loved?

Love isn't when you can't sleep ... it's when you want to keep your eyes open...

Love isn't when you keep holding on ... it's when you learn to let go ...

Love isn't when you kill yourself with jealousy ... it's when you understand ...

Love isnt' when you fall for someone ... it's when you catch that person when she falls...

Love isn't when you see her everywhere ... it's when you close your eyes and she is still there ...

Love isn't when you tell her what you feel ... it's when you give everything for her sake...

And Love isn't when you think you were blind ... it's when you know she was wrong but you didn't mind!

*This was after he had encountered his own love problem.

"Let us always remember that sometimes we just have to stop pushing ourselves to love or be loved by someone. Sometimes we just have to be alone to be able to think about what we really want in life, to be able to realize what or who will really make us happy. Sometimes it is only when we start loving ourselves that we are able to realize that real and lasting happiness starts from within ourselves, and becomes even more complete when we share it with someone who loves us... " - joe d' mango

The Dance of Life

There were two hearts who met in a dance. That moment was magical, there was a sweet song playing, there was harmony. And soon love in the air. They fell in love and they started building castles in their dreams. And promised forever with all certainty.

But somewhere in the midst of the fun, they got lost in the dance. Something went wrong, but they can never do anything. They were just drifting away, their fortress falling apart. There were so many questions but no one had an answer. Then the music stopped, then there was silence.

When we truly love someone we give our best and let that person see the pureness of our intentions. But sometimes that person makes us cry and hurts us for the wrong reasons. That someone must have loved us but he has not loved us enough to make him stand for what he truly felt.

Now, we are faced with the seemingly impossible task of forgetting. We have burdened ourselves long enough. But we still can't get out from this emotional trap. Let us remember that the more we try to forget someone we love the more painful letting go will become.

Sometimes we never have to take that person out in our hearts at all, for he will always be there no matter how hard we try to drive him away. It isn't his presence that made this difficult but it is our stubbornness to accept our destiny that aligns forgetting is next to impossible.

We keep a cold face but deep in our hearts there still that lingering hope for a reconciliation. Somehow, we still believe that we can rekindle small embers and relight the fire that once burned in our hearts. This thought gives us hope but it also breeds the seeds of loneliness and despair.

The only way to forget is to accept and the only way to move on is to look ahead and let the footprints of the past be blown by the wind of time. Only then can our hearts find a partner in the dance of life and hopefully never get lost again.*easier said than done....

SOURCE: Joe D'Mango

the saddest part

you can never teach a guy to love you the way you want to be loved.. you have to wait for him to do it in his own way,in his own time..

that's the saddest part of being a girl..

BUT, you can never teach a girl to love the guy back the way she did before if she already grew tired and is fed up understanding and waiting to be appreciated and loved the way she deserves to be loved..

that's the saddest part of being an insensitive man..

some lovenotes

• Love don't give us the promise of forever, but having faith on it makes us believe that there is.
• Love is not a one-shot deal that you have to get right at first. You will always make mistakes and find your ideal partner. Love is also a process of finding your way, finding the right one.
• The greates mistake we'll make in a relationship is when we look at somebody else other than our partner to satisfy our emotional and physical needs. The second mistake is when we consciously allow ourselves to be the object of these emotional and physical desires.
• We can never be certain of our relationships because not all of them are built to last our lifetime. We have to constantly nurture it so it can grow and we can grow old with it.
• In the midst of despair, pain, and sorrow, someone comes in our life and gives us strength to believe in life again. The love they give us gives us a blind faith that helps us believe in ourselves again, that we can make our dreams come true.
• Love can be the beSt thing that will ever happen to you. More often than not, your lover is also your bestfriend, one who will stand by you through thick and thin.
• Most ordinary relationships begin and most of them continue as forms of mutual exploitation, a mental or physical barter, to be terminated when one or both parties run out of goods. The truth is you will not run out of goods if you believe you won't.
• People cannot change who you really are. You just have to tell them and be honest about the real person behind you. You cannot hide in your cloak of deception forever. You desreve to be happy just by being yourself.
• A relationship is a two way street. It's never all your fault or the other person's. You go into the relationship together and work through it all together. And remember, the best relationship is one w/c your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
• When we begin to put so much weight on what others feel and think about our relationships, we become distracted and lose our own perception of our partners.
• If you choose to fight for love, then you should be prepared to face the consequences and risk associated with it. But if you choose to follow tradition over the dictate of your heart the you also have to be prepared to lose someone you love.
• Let us always remember that, in the end it is not how much love we have received that would count, but how much love we have given and how much more we are willing to give even without the promise of earning it back.
• We constantly have to make an extra effort to make others feel that they are important to us and the small things they do are appreciated. The greatness of a relationship is built on the foundation of small acts of kindess, love and compassion.
• Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, they are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a purpose and meaning behind all events, and this purpose and meaning develops you as a person and as a lover.

don`t settle for the guy who`s going to
kiss your ass .

wait for the one who
pushes your buttons && pisses you
off on a daily basis.

love isn't supposed
to be easy; it's supposed to be worth it.

why you should never lie to a woman

A man called home to his wife and said, "Honey I have been asked to go fishing up in Canada with my boss & several of his Friends. We'll be gone for a week. This is a good opportunity for me to get that Promotion I'v been wanting, so could you please pack enough Clothes for a week and set out my rod and fishing box we're Leaving From the office & I will swing by the house to pick my things up. "Oh! Please pack my new blue silk pajamas."

The wife thinks this sounds a bit fishy but being the good wife she is, did exactly what her husband asked.

The following Weekend he came home a little tired but otherwise looking good.

The wife welcomed him home and asked if he caught many fish?

He said, "Yes! Lots of Salmon, some Bluegill, and a few Swordfish. But why didn't you pack my new blue silk pajamas like I asked you to Do?"

You'll love the answer...



The wife replied,

"I did. They're in your fishing box.."

i want a boy...

i want a boy---


who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with and me remember each one.
a boy who notices girls haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who shows up at my games,
slipping in the door.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesnt send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
a boy with deeps eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.
who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dads hand
and look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me im pretty.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who surprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who wears cologne that i can subtly
smell when im leaning on his shoulder.
who tells me i have a nice laugh
and a smile that light up the room
and simply be mine to hold...

why boys fall in love with girls...

(This was written by a guy)

1. They will always smell good even if it's just shampoo.

2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder.

3. How cute they look when they sleep.

4. The ease in which they fit into our arms.

5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world.

6. How cute they are when they eat.

7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while.

8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside.

9. The way they look good no matter what they wear.

10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful girl on this earth.

11. How cute they are when they argue.

12. The way her hand always finds yours.

13. The way they smile.

14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight.

15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....

16. The way that they kiss after you have had a fight.

17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you".

18. Actually...Just the way they kiss you...

19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry.

20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly.

21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt.

22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt (even though we don't admit it).

23. The way they say "I miss you".

24. The way you miss them.

25. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore...


Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, no paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the
heart.

A feeling.

Only felt.

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```note to all the girls, besides, mostly girls din naman bumabasa nito e.

~wen u ask us w/c clothes, earings, etc fits u best and we answer "we dont care" or "any", it means you look good no matter how you look.

~wen u ask us, "arent you curious about my past?" and we say no, it means we dont care about ur past. we love you. thats that. period.

~wen we act like we dnt care and stay quiet, it dsnt mean we dnt luv u. it means we're still not sure if what we're about to say may sting you...

~wen u get pissed and get mad at us, the only thing we wanna do in this world is to stab ourselves. (literally.)

~pag di nagreply, di ibig sabihin pinagpalit na namin kayo. wala lang kaming load.

~wen we dnt see u the whole day, that mins may life or death kaming situation dpt ayusin. inaayos namin dahil pag namatay kami, di na namin kau makakasama dba? ;)

~wen we say we love you, tatak mo na sa bato, totoo yun.

~pag tumawag ka, di namin sinagot, that means ayaw ka namin magastosan, hindi dahil nasa club kami or whatever.

~wen we get late for a date or meeting with you, that means we took time to look our best for you.

~wen we dont want you to wear revealing clothes, its coz amin na kau, why attract more attention to yourselves?

~wen we say magbasketball lang kami, dont get mad. we dont get mad wen you go shopping right?

~wen late na kami nagising, it means we spent the night thinking about you.

~wen you get mad and we keep quiet, it only means we want YOU to listen to us... (for a change)

~wen we stare at you and smile, di kami nagiisip ng bastos. we're just thinking of how lucky we are that we got you. other guys didn't. ;)

~wen we dont wanna be with your friends, it dsnt mean we dont like them. it means YOU should spend time with them. baka magtampo that lagi nalang yung mag-boyfriend yung magkasama. :P

~wen we spend lots of our time sleeping, its coz we wanna have lots of energy wen we see you or text you. :)

~wen we text our ex's, it dsnt mean we still want them back. its just like saying, "di namin binastos yung ex namin unlike other guys thats why we still have the guts to text them and call them friends."

~wen we introduce you to our friends and family, it means we're proud that you're ours and we wanna show you off... ;)

~kapag lagi kami nagpapapogi and nagpapabango, it dsnt mean mambababae kami. it means that when you or someone who knows you sees us, di naman kami magmumukhang gago. :D

~wen minsan matagal kami magreply, it means nagiisip kami ng sasabihin.


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girls, as guys, mahal namin kayo. wag lang kau magagalit agad. try to understand the situation first before
getting mad. wag lahat ng bagay lalagyan ng malisya. mwah! ;)

Women Better Than Men

1. Free drinks.

2. Free dinners.

3. Free movies (you get the point).

4. You can hug your friend without wondering if she thinks you're gay.

5. You can hug your friend without wondering if YOU'RE gay.

6. You know The Truth about whether size matters.

7. Speeding ticket? What's that?

8. New lipstick gives you a whole new lease on life.

9. You never had to walk down the hall with your binder strategically positioned in high school.

10. If you have sex with someone and don't call him the next day, you're not the devil.

11. Condoms make no significant difference in your enjoyment of sex.

12. If you have to be home in time for 90210, you can say so, out loud.

13. If you're not making enough money you can blame the glass ceiling.

14. You can sleep your way to the top.

15. You can sue the President for sexual harassment.

16. Nothing crucial can be cut off with one clean sweep.

17. It's possible to live your whole life without ever taking a group shower.

18. No fashion faux pas you make could rival The Speedo.

19. Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise and Tom Selleck.

20. You don't have to fart to amuse yourself.

21. If you cheat on your spouse, people assume it's because you're being emotionally neglected.

22. YOU never have to wonder if his orgasm was real.

23. You'll never have to decide where to hide your nose-hair clipper.

24. No one passes out when you take off your shoes.

25. If you think the person you're dating really likes you, you don't have to break up with him.

26. Excitement is only as far away as the nearest beauty-supply store.

27. If you forget to shave, no one has to know.

28. You can congratulate your teammate without ever touching her ass.

29. If you have a zit, you can conceal it.

30. You never have to reach down every so often to make sure your privates are still there.

31. If you're dumb, some people will find it cute.

32. You don't have to memorize Caddyshack or Fletch to fit in.

33. You have the ability to dress yourself.

34. You have an excuse to be a total bitch at least once a month.

35. You can talk to people of the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.

36. If you marry someone 20 years younger, you're aware that you look like.

37. If you're wearing cologne, you don't have to pretend it's aftershave.

38. You'll probably never see someone you know while peeing in an alley.

39. You'll never have to punch a hole through anything with your fist.

40. You can quickly end any fight by crying.

41. Your friends won't think you're weird if you ask whether there's spinach in your teeth.

42. There are times when chocolate really can solve all your problems.

43. You've never had a goatee.

44. Gay waiters don't make you uncomfortable.

45. You'll never regret piercing your ears.

46. You can fully assess a person just by looking at her shoes.

47. You'll never discover you've been duped by a Wonderbra.

48. You don't have hair on your back.

49. You know which glass was yours by the lipstick mark.

some sweet things to do for a girl

Every girl dreams that one day, she will find a guy that does these things for her. Even the smallest action can have THE BIGGEST impact in someone's life.


GIVE HER ONE OF YOUR T-SHIRTS TO SLEEP IN.

LEAVE HER CUTE TEXT MESSAGES.

KISS HER IN FR0NT 0F Y0UR FRIENDS.

TRUST HER 0VER EVERY0NE ELSE.

TELL HER SHE L00KS BEAUTIFUL.

L00K HER IN THE EYE WHEN Y0U TALK T0 HER.

LET HER MESS WITH Y0UR HAIR.

MESS WITH HER HAIR.

JUST WALK AR0UND WITH HER.

F0RGIVE HER F0R HER MISTAKES.

L00K AT HER LIKES SHE'S THE 0NLY GIRL Y0U SEE.

TICKLE HER EVEN WHEN SHE SAYS ST0P.

H0LD HER HAND EVEN WHEN Y0U ARE AROUND Y0UR FRIENDS.

WHEN SHE STARTS SWEARING AT Y0U TELL HER Y0U L0VE HER.

LET HER FALL ASLEEP IN Y0UR ARMS.

GET HER MAD, THEN KISS HER.

TEASE HER & LET HER TEASE Y0U BACK.

STAY UP WITH HER ALL NIGHT WHEN SHES SICK.

WATCH HER FAV0RITE M0VIE WITH HER

KISS HER F0REHEAD.

GIVE HER THE W0RLD.

WRITE HER LETTERS.

LET HER WEAR Y0UR CL0THES. (SWEATSHIRTS)

WHEN SHES SAD, HANG 0UT WITH HER.

LET HER KN0W SHE'S IMP0RTANT.

LET HER TAKE ALL THE PH0T0S 0F Y0U SHE WANTS.

KISS HER IN THE RAIN.

CALL HER EVERY NIGHT.

AND WHEN Y0U FALL IN L0VE WITH HER, TELL HER.

AND WHEN Y0U D0 TELL HER. L0VE HER LIKE Y0U NEVER L0VED BEF0RE.

how women think

FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
if she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)
One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the
word "Fine". this is a dare, not permission. Don't do it.

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will
talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing".

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."

GO AHEAD
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with
whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay".

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.

THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be
followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing".

Oh, and before we forget

"Whatever" ...it's a woman's way of saying *! #@ YOU

uso pa ba ang open relationships?

1. She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends." They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she's okay. They still date. They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't know the real score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

2. She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding hands lagi? Sila kaya? "He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me. Parang kami, pero hindi."

3. They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's assuming that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too. There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

4. She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out. They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about it but it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's important is I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."



The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.

Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't. Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.

Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. Magpakasaya ka. Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya… almost, but not quite.