Partners and Marriage

By Eduardo Jose E. Calasanz

I have never met a man who didn't want to be loved. But I have seldom met a man who didn't fear marriage. Something about the closure seems constricting, not enabling. Marriage seems easier to understand for what it cuts out of our lives than for what it makes possible within our lives.

When I was younger this fear immobilized me. I did not want to make a mistake. I saw my friends get married for reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever, or just because they thought it was the logical thing to do. Then I watched, as they and their partners became embittered and petty in their dealings with each other. I looked at older couples and saw, at best, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined a lifetime of loveless nights and bickering and could not imagine subjecting myself or someone else to such a fate.

And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old couples who somehow seemed to glow in each other's presence. They seemed really in love, not just dependent upon each other and tolerant of each other's foibles. It was an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible.

How, I asked myself, can they have survived so many years of sameness, so much irritation at the other's habits? What keeps love alive in them, when most of us seem unable to even stay together, much less love each other?

The central secret seems to be in choosing well. There is something to the claim of fundamental compatibility. Good people can create a bad relationship, even though they both dearly want the relationship tosucceed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly in the early stages.

Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of little things by which relationships eventually survive or fail. You need to find away to see beyond this initial overwhelming sexual fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see what is on the other side. This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others deny the sexual side altogether in an attempt to get toknow each other apart from their sexuality. But they cannot seeclearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps them from having any normal perception of what life would be like together.

The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long- time friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get to know each other's laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see each other at their worst and at their best. They share time together before they get swept into the entangling intimacy of their sexuality.

This is the ideal, but not often possible. If you fall under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to look beyond it for other keys to compatibility.

One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy each other's company over the long term. If your laughter together is good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise.If you can make each other laugh, you can always surprise each other.And if you can always surprise each other, you can always keep the world around you new. Beware of a relationship in which there is no laughter. Even the most intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious view point on the world tends to turn you against those who do not share the same view point, and your relationship can become based on being critical together.

After laughter, look for a partner who deals with the world in a way you respect. When two people first get together, they tend to see their relationship as existing only in the space between the two ofthem. They find each other endlessly fascinating, and the overwhelming power of the emotions they are sharing obscures the outside world. As the relationship ages and grows, the outside world becomes important again. If your partner treats people or circumstances in a way you can't accept, you will inevitably come to grief. Look at the way she cares for others and deals with the daily affairs of life. If that makes you love her more, your love will grow. If it does not, be careful. If you do not respect the way you each deal with the world around you, eventually the two of you will not respect each other.

Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteries of life. We live on the cusp of poetry and practicality, and the real life of the heart resides in the poetic. If one of you is deeply affected by the mystery of the unseen in life and relationships, while the other is drawn only to the literal and the practical, you must take care that the distance doesn't become an unbridgeable gap that leaves you each feeling isolated and misunderstood.

There are many other keys, but you must find them by yourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our hearts that we will not betray and private commitments to a vision of life that we will not deny. If you fall in love with someone who cannot nourish those inviolable parts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her, you will find yourselves growing further apart until you live in separate worlds where you share the business of life, but never touch each other where the heart lives and dreams. From there it is only a small leap to the cataloging of petty hurts and daily failures that leaves so many couples bitter and unsatisfied with their mates.

So choose carefully and well. If you do, you will have chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and then the real miracle of marriagecan take place in your hearts. I pick my words carefully when I speakof a miracle. But I think it is not too strong a word. There is a miracle in marriage. It is called transformation. Transformation is one of the most common events of nature. The seed becomes the flower. The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomes spring and love becomes a child. We never question these, because we see them around us every day. To us they are not miracles, though if we did not knowt hem they would be impossible to believe. Marriage is a transformationwe choose to make.

Our love is planted like a seed, and in time it begins to flower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom, but we can be sure that a bloom will come. If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloom will be good. If you have chosen poorly or for the wrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quite willing to accept the reality of negative transformation in a marriage. It was negative transformation that always had me terrified of the bitter marriages that I feared when I was younger.

It never occurred to me to question the dark miracle that transformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet I was unable to accept the possibility that the first heat of love could be transformed into something positive that was actually deeper and more meaningful than the heat of fresh passion. All I could believe in was the power ofthis passion and the fear that when it cooled I would be left with something lesser and bitter. But there is positive transformation aswell. Like negative transformation, it results from a slow accretion of little things. But instead of death by a thousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches of love. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings, two separate presence, two separate consciousnesses come together and share a view of life that passes before them. They remain separate, but they also become one.

There is an expansion of awareness, not a closure and a constriction, as I had once feared. This is not to say that there is not tension and there are not traps. Tension and traps are part of every choice of life, from celibate to monogamous to having multiple lovers. Each choice contains within it the lingering doubt that the road not taken somehow more fruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to the richness that it alone contains.

But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand and be leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen, against all odds, to become one. Those who live together without marriage can know the pleasure of shared company, but there is a specific gravity in the marriage commitment that deepens that experience into something richer and more complex. So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rush into it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faith and it contains within it the power of transformation.

If you believe in your heart that you have found someone with whom you are able to grow, if you have sufficient faith that you can resist the endless attraction of the road not taken and the partner not chosen, if you have the strength of heart to embrace the cycles and seasons that your love will experience, then you may be ready to seek the miracle that marriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace of a marriage well made is worth your patience. When the time comes, a thousand flowers will bloom... endlessly.

The most beautiful rainbow.

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every 60 seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Live simply. Love generously.

Care deeply. Speak kindly.

Leave the rest to God.

What a girl needs most is LOVE.
What a guy needs most is RESPECT.
The most important thing for a girl is her HEART.
For a guy it’s his EGO.

Give your man his own TIME and SPACE. Let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self, and GOD.
The relationship will grow old quickly if lagi kayong magkasama. Give him time to miss you and you’ll see how he will love you more.
If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to be with you all the time, tell him you can’t respect a “puppy” for long.

Do things differently anytime. Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and something new. VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE.
Exciting baga?

Discover something you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning about it kahit konti.
If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a looooooooong way to understand him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny noh? Maybe. But it is very powerful. Pag may takot sa Diyos and partner mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that before you part after date, with hands held and eyes closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me, it’s effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Believe in “MAGIC”. Kahit minsan di practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do SWEET LITTLE THINGS for the one you love kahit magmukha ka ng timang. The MEMORIES will be fun to recall later in life. The corniest song o gift o letter ang laging KABOG!

TRUE LOVE brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your partner and nurture it, encourage it, and syempre, ENJOY it.

IT’S HEALTHY TO FIGHT. Doon nyo lang maaayos ang mga differences nyo at natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti. It’s called TEST OF FIRE. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is HOW OFTEN YOU MAKE BATI.
Mas nakakatakot yung relasyong sobrang perfect at laging masaya. One big fight and that’s it! And diba mas kilig yung malambing na… “uy, bati na tayo…”. But don’t overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori. CHOOSE THE BATTLES NA PAPATULAN MO.

Daraan sa iba’t-ibang stages ang love especially pag matagal na kayo. Grow with it. Don’t expect it to be like nung una. ‘Coz like a student, din a ituturo sa Grade 6 yung lessons na pang-Grade 2. CHANGE WILL HAPPEN…you both will change and your love will change too. It’s up to you na lang if the change will be for the better or for the worse. LIFE IS ABOUT GROWTH. Grow with it.

When break-up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love just because it didn’t last. May mga bagay sa Buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn’t mean di na ito totoo. SOME GOOD THINGS ARE JUST NEVER MEANT TO LAST FOREVER. Okay lang yon!
Bless the parting and move on.

Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga “ITS WHEN YOU HURT THE WORSE THAT YOU LOVE THE MOST.” Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka na lang magmahal.

LIFE is a balance. And life is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man or woman and when to let him/her go. God will guide you kung anong dapat gawin sa kung anong sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng langit sa cellphone ng puso mo to know His wisdom.

best things in life

1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket.
5. A special glance.
6. Getting mail.
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry).
12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling.
14. A good conversation.
15 The beach
16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.
17. Laughing at yourself.
18. Looking into their eyes and knowing they Love you
19 Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
20. Running through sprinklers.
21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
23. Laughing at an inside joke with FRIENDS
25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
29. Playing with a new puppy or kitten.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
36. Making chocolate chip cookies.
37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.
38 Holding hands with someone you care about.
39 Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
40. Watching the _expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise.
42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
43. Knowing that somebody misses you.
44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.

hatred and break-ups

Love is a beautiful feeling. But the flip side of love is hatred. Hatred overwhelms a person when he/she feels cheated and after that it is sadness all the way. If a break-up occurs and hatred remains, that will eat away the vitals of the sufferer. Why do lovers begin hating each other with more intensity than they loved? There is nothing mysterious about it.

We hate somebody when we feel that a person played a dirty game with us. We hate when we feel cheated by someone. We hate someone when we feel that we are not getting our due. Hatred may be justified or unjustified in some cases. Psychologically disturbed persons may hate for no discernible reason. But a lot of hatred involves reality.

Sometimes, a person wants unreasonable demands fulfilled. When these demands are not met, he/she hates the person who could not do that. No amount of explanation will help. The primary desire is get demands fulfilled, that is not possible and the answer is hatred and not understanding. The break-up takes place after that. Many times the hatred is totally justified. A person who gets killed will hate the perpetrator of the crime. We are speaking about emotional killing.

Such break-ups that end with one person full of hatred have no possibility of any reconciliation. That break-up saddens both the partners. The need is to understand the true nature of your partner and break up sooner than later. Wishful thinking is not good in certain circumstances.

you decide

CONFLICT:
the one you love or the one who loves you?

COMPARISON:
* the one you love will keep you hoping but the one who loves you will offer you everything
* the one you love can give you a moment but the one who loves you can give you eternity
* the one you love can ease your pain yet the one who loves you can take the pain & own it instead, and
* the one you love could break your heart & the one who loves you will do anything to rebuild it..

CHOICE:
Its up to you.

to those nice girls.

To the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be that they are doing something wrong.

For the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood.

Homage to the girls who laugh loud and often, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention.

For the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds."

This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it.

This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after another girl.

This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.

This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart, only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not over her, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone.

This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their hopes dashed by someone too cavalier to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech.

For the night his dog died and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had.

For the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep.

Men complain that girls play mind games, that girls love to keep them hanging. Therein lies the truth, guys: nice girls are everywhere.

So don't say you're on the lookout for nice girls, guys, when you pass us up on every step you take. Sometimes we go undercover; Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running, they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congratulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race.

So maybe it won't last forever. Maybe some of those guys in that race will turn in their running shoes and make their way to the concession stand where we're waiting; however, until that happens, we still have each other, that silly race to watch, and all the chocolate we can eat (because what's a concession stand at a race without some chocolate?)

But hurry. Sometimes the nice girl gets sick of waiting.

why you're really single..

NAGTATAKA KA BA KUNG BAKIT KA PA SINGLE?

SINGLE: Minsan ayos lang kase free na free ka gawin kung ano ang gusto mo o kaya makakapunta ka kung saan mo gusto pumunta pero kung minsan, lalo na't malamig ang hanging o kya maganda ung view, magwiwish ka na sana may yumayakap sa yo, hahalikan ka sa noo at tititignan ka ng parang ikaw na ata ang pinakamagandang babae sa mundo. nakakamiss yun.

Kaya heto, susubukan ko bilangin ang mga dahilan kung bakit single pa tayo. Gaano katagal na ba tayo walang nagiging boyfriend?

1. Masyadong independent
Baka naman masyado mo napoproject na kaya mong mabuhay ng wala silang lahat, ayan tuloy parang hindi nila maramdaman na kailangan mo rin sila kaya dun nalang sila sa taong tingin nila ay magkakaron sila ng silbi.

2. Mataas ang standards mo
Siguro hindi na natanggal sa isip mo ung pangarap mo nung bata ka pa. aba, kelangan mo na gumising sa katotohanan na walang ideal guy. ok cge, kung makita mo nga ung hinahanap mo na gwapong matalino na mayaman na mabait pero nung nakasama mo naman eh nakita mo hindi pala pantay ang kuko niya sa hinlalaki o kaya naman sobrang bad breath niya sa umaga o kaya naman daig pa ang tambucho sa lakas manigarilyo...oh eh di turn-off ka na? kung lahat ng tao ay katulad mo na mataas ang standards, malamang wala ng magboyfriend at maggirlfriend ngayon. puro friends nalang.

3. Ubod ka ng kasungitan
Maski naman kahit sino hindi masarap lapitan at kausapin ang taong mukhang nangangain ng tao tapos liligawan pa? dapat kc kahit konti maging approachable ka naman para kahit na hindi ka kagandahan, madidiskubre niya na masarap ka palang kausap at masaya kang kasama.

4. Masama ang ugali
Kung papipiliin ako kung sa masungit at sa masama ang ugali, dun na ko sa masungit! ang masungit kc, hindi likas na itim ang budhi nyan, may taglay na istorya sa likod ng simangot niya. sabihan mo lang yan ng 'peek-a-boo' BAKA ngitian ka na. ibang istorya na kase ang masama ang ugali dahil mula pa yang ugali na yan sa kaibuturan ng kanyang mga balunbalunan. sa una mabait pero madidiskubre mo na parang trapo ang tao kung tratuhin nito. tsk tsk tsk. pero hindi pa naman huli ang lahat, kung kaya mo pa magbago, bigyan mo ng pagkakataon ang sarilli mo magbago. magdasal ka kay lord. ng mataimtim ha.

5. Nagkukulong sa bahay
Walang makaka-appreciate sa panloob o panlabas na beauty mo kung nagkukulong ka lang sa bahay. ok, nanjan nga ang nanay mo para sabihin na maganda ka pero im sure umay na umay na rin yan sa pagmumukha mo kaya mas maigi kung lumabas ka...pagkagaling sa office, pwede ka magmall o kya gumimik kasama mga officemates mo, o kaya naman sumali sa mga organization sa simbahan or sa neighborhood.

6. Mukha kang losyang
Ito ang kadalasang krimen ng mga single. hindi ka nagbibigay ng panahon para ayusin ang sarili physically. at bakit pa nga ba e wala ka naman dahilan para mag-ayos, diba? MALI!!! dapat nga lalo ka mag-ayos para makita ang marketability mo. hindi krimen ang maging vain kahit konti. did u know na ang ratio ng lalaki sa babae ay 4:1? kaya lola, magsimula ka na mag-ayos at baka yung crush mo ay maagaw pa ng mga intrimitida sa paligid mo.

7. Masyadong magaling
Medyo sensitive itong tapic na ito dahil nasasagasaan na ang male ego dito eh. oo, may ibang lalake na nabuburaot dahil mas magaling at mas marunong ang babae sa kanila. hindi na natin ito problema dahil malamang insecurity nila ang bumubulong sa kanila pero minsan kase hindi na makatarungan na laging nai-inferior ang lalake. kailangan maramdaman din nila saiyo na hindi mo sila ia-under the saya if maging girlfriend ka nila. hindi ko rin sinasabi na icompromise mo ang talents mo, ano bang magagawa ko kung likas na talentadong bata ka pero ang tamang gawin ay wag naman ipagdukdukan na sobrang galing mong tao. wag na wag mong kalimutan ng may 2 klaseng yabang dito sa mundo. wag kang mang-intimidate kung ayaw mong maintimidate.

8. Sobrang busy
Alam mo ba ung kantang 'Narda'? ganyan ang mangyayari sa iyo, hanggang kanta nalang ang aabutin ng nagkakagusto sayo dahil maski pagpluck ng kilay mo wala kang time.

9. Dala ang bigat ng kahapon
May kasabihan nga, "how can u look forward when u keep looking back?" walang mangyayari sa love life mo kung dala mo pa ang kabiguan na dinulot ng nakaraan mo. walang sense ang magpakabitter dahil in the end, lalo ka lang papanget. panget na nga, bitter pa. tsaka wag kang matakot masaktan kung gusto mo magmahal muli. laging kaakibat ng love ang pain dahil hindi ka masasaktan kung hindi ka nagmahal. at isa pa, wag ka ring matakot na kunin ang pagkakataon kung nandiyan na sa harap mo. pano mo malalaman na masarap ang chocolate kung hindi mo titikman?

10. Masyadong masyado
Masyado maganda, masyadong matalino, masyadong talented, at masyado mayaman. minsan ito ang mga nagiging factor kung bakit walang gustong manligaw sayo. pero hindi mo naman ito kasalanan diba? katulad din ito ng scenario sa #7. siguro mas maigi kung humble lang ka, wag mayabang, at imbis na maging hambog, share nalang the blessing. hindi ka lang maganda/matalino/talented/mayaman, mabait pa. im sure, lahat mahuhumaling sayo.

At eto ang pinakamatindi sa lahat:

11. Wala sa guhit ng palad mo ang magkaboyfriend
Shiyet ang saklap naman nito kung ganun nga. hindi purkit na hindi ka na magkakaboyfriend ay loser ka na. malamang may nakalaan na plano sayo si Lord kaya gusto niya na wala kang boyfriend. siguro kaya wala kang boyfriend dahil kelangan ang full attention mo sa pagtulong sa pagtaguyod ng pamilya mo, baka yayaman ka at magiging tagapagmana mo mga pamangkin mo, baka kelangan ang full time and support mo sa organization mo...maraming dahilan eh pero nakakasiguro naman ako na walang bagay na nangyayari sayo na hindi kagustuhan ng nasa itaas. laging may greater purpose kung bakit nangyayari ang nangyayari.
kaya kung halimbawang may darating, wag na pakyeme. kung hindi mo type ang lalapit sayo, let it go gracefully dahil mahirap na at baka balikan ka ng karma. kung nandyan na, gawin nalang ang best para magstay siya sa buhay mo at hindi ka na nagtataka pa kung bakit single ka.

drop dead lines.

HE : Can I buy you a drink?
SHE : Actually I'd rather have the money.

HE : I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours.
SHE : I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours.

HE : Hi. Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
SHE : Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

HE : How did you get to be so beautiful?
SHE : I must've been given your share.

HE : Will you go out with me this Saturday?
SHE : Sorry. I'm having a headache this weekend.

HE : Your face must turn a few heads.
SHE : And your face must turn a few stomachs.

HE : Go on ,don't be shy. Ask me out.
SHE : Okay, get out.

HE : I think I could make you very happy.
SHE : Why? Are you leaving?

HE : What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
SHE : Nothing. I can't talk and laugh at the same time.

HE : Can I have your name?
SHE : Why? Don't you already have one?

HE : Shall we go see a movie?
SHE : I've already seen it.

HE : Where have you been all my life?
SHE : Hiding from you.

HE : Haven't I seen you some place before?
SHE : Yes. That's why I don't go there anymore.

HE : Is this seat empty?
SHE : Yes, and this one will be if you sit down.

HE : So, what do you do for a living?
SHE : I'm a female impersonator.

HE : Hey baby, what's your sign?
SHE : Do not enter.

HE : Your body is like a temple.
SHE : Sorry, there are no services today.

HE : If I could see you naked, I'd die happy.
SHE : If I saw you naked, I'd probably die laughing.

30 things guys should know about girls

[1] Whatever you do, don't just show up at their house...they run around in their underwear just like we do.

[2] Don't cheat on them. It may seem foolproof, but girls tell each other everything about everything. Trust me, they WILL find out and you will be mud.

[3] Beware of every single male relative and all guy friends. Any of them would kick your ass at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them wouldn't even wait for the d*mn hat.

[4] Never miss an opportunity to tell them they're beautiful.

[5] Don't refuse to kiss in front of your friends. If they laugh at you, it's because they're jealous.

[6] If they slap you hard, you deserved it.

[7] Don't be afraid to touch them if you want to. If they're going out with
you in the first place, it's because they like being in your arms.

[8] If you don't sleep with them, do not tell your friends that you did and if you DO sleep with them, don't tell your friends that you did.

[9] You can be dirty minded in private, really . . . most of them are not offended by it.

[10] Not all of them eat like birds, a lot of them can eat like whales.

[11] Most of them don't mind paying half of everything, but they do discuss these things with their friends. Realize that if you make your girlfriend pay half all the time, everyone will know about it and your friends will know you're a pussy. But . . .

[11½ ] . . . do you honestly need all your money that much? Be a man, pay
all the time!

[12] Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend- a stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts, and some type of jewelery. Even if it's not a serious
relationship.

[13] Make sure she gets home safely as often as you can. If you're dropping her off, walk her to the door. If you aren't dropping her off, call to be sure she's home safely.

[14] If a guy is bothering her, it is your right to beat the sh*t out of him.

[15] If you're talking to a female friend of yours, pull your girlfriend closer.

[16] Never, ever slap her, even if it's just in a joking way. Even if she swats you first, and says, "Oh, you're so dumb" or something, never make any gestures back.

[17] Go to a chick flick once in a while. She doesn't care whether you enjoy it or not, it just matters that you went.

[18] You're dead meat if you can't get along with their pets, parents and best friends. Be prince charming to their friends, Mr. Polite to their parents, and make sure to be nice to their animals.

[19] Don't flirt with their moms . . . that's just freaky.

[20] Don't be freaked out by PMS. It's not gross, and it really does make them feel like sh*t, so be understanding.

[21] If you don't like the way they drive, you do it.

[22] If you're officially dating, and you're introducing her to your friends, you'd better damn well introduce her as your girlfriend.

[23] Don't stress where you go for every date. They really only want to be with you.

[24] If they complain that something hurts, rub it for them without being asked.

[25] Girls are fragile. Even if you're play fighting/wrestling, be very gentle.

[26] Memorize their goddamn birthdays. You forget her birthday and you're basically screwed for life.

[27] Don't marinade the cologne, but smell good.

[28] Don't give her something stupid for her birthday or Christmas or Valentine's day. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it has to be meaningful. Jewelry is
always nice.

[29] If you think the relationship isn't going to last, don't wait to find out. It will only hurt you more if you draw it out.

[30] After you've been dating for a while, realize that they really have started to trust you. When you have a girlfriend who truly trusts you, you have a lot more
responsibility, priviledge and control than you would think. Be careful with
it, most guys would kill for that kind.

Some rules for Surviving the Game of Love

Do not fall in love everytime you fall in bed.
... Learn to detach emotionally.

Sex does not equal commitment.

Do not revolve your entire life around him/her.
... Addiction is bad for your health!

Do not cling, act needy or demand.
... Doormats are for your feet, not your heart.

It's OK to say NO!

Stop talking so much. NEVER reveal everything.

Do not grill them or their friends for information.

Master the art of LISTENING.

Treat him/her as you would your best friend.

Friendship creates long term love and comes before sex.

FORGET about fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.

Your choice of partner is a reflection of who you are and who you are not!

Enjoy the moment first. Live in the present.
... Don't worry about the ex's or start naming your future children.

NEVER read their journal or go through their paperwork.
... If you have no trust, you have no relationship.

Allow space and freedom between you.

DO NOT always be available.

Calling frequently is a turn off and signals insecurity, neediness and control.

Open your eyes to lies and cheating, OR... close them, justify the bad behavior, and live with the consequences.

Little or no eye contact? Start walking. They won't even notice your gone.

Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance and dress, usually have very little or nothing to offer from within.
... Look beyond the physical!

Never compromise your values.

If you OVER give, you will lose your lover and his respect. DO NOT LOSE YOUR IDENTITY.

December/May relationships are great. However, seasons change and the May lover will sooner or later, hear the call of Spring.

If someone REALLY wants to be with you, they will be.

Sleeping with a married man?! Don't count on him divorcing anytime soon.

State your personal rules in the very beginning or expect them to be broken.

If they ask to be just friends, be just that and look elsewhere for a love partner.

If someone wants to really be with you, they will. If they keep giving reasons for not calling or say they are extremely busy, GET THE HINT, leave them alone.

Marriage before thirty is an inevitable celebration for divorce.

Don't ever give up your friends for him/her.

If your partner one day leaves you, be sure you have friends, money, a career and a life of your own which you never gave up.
... If you do not, who do you have to blame but yourself!

"Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of those who don't believe in romance"

You can't help who is it that you fall in love with, whether they are older or younger, taller or shorter, completely opposite or just like you...

love it is

It's so good to know that you have someone who'll be willing to help you cope up in every frustrations you're having. Every depressing moments, every down moments, every self-worthless-realization moments, he'd be there, not because you want someone to be with you, but because he wants to be with you.

It's great to know when a person appreciates every little thing you do. Even a smile would mean a lot to him, just because you own that smile. And that even if no words are expressed as long as the eyes understand, you'd be able to communicate, just like that.

It's overwhelming when a person tells you that he loves you for who you are. He may not have an answer when you ask him why, but really, he doesn't have to have reasons for loving you.

It's more grateful to know that someone is grateful to have you. We don't choose the people who enter our lives, so it must be luck that you have that person, then you have to be thankful. It may just be coincidence or fate, but whatever the reason is, you have to be thankful in having him the same way he is thankful for having you.

It's a wonderful feeling when you're on the verge of giving up the things you've worked hard for, someone isn't just helping you carry the weight on your shoulders, but he carries it on his own because he'd also be in pain when you are in pain. And then you'll realize, trials would all be worth it as long as you have him, not because he would do things for you, but because you gather all the strength you need, in him and his love.

It's a superb feeling when one is willing to take the risks just so you'll be happy. Unselfishness rule in him just so happiness would take over you.

It's a nice feeling that when you're apart, and days seem to be long, that person misses you. Yes, you might feel bad about not being with each other, but knowing that you feel the same way would drive those blues away, thinking, you'd fight over that feeling because you're looking forward to seeing each other, and that's something to be happy about.

It's a great feeling when he wants to be with you because of the happiness you have when you're together. That even if corny jokes and senseless stories are told, it won't matter as long as you're together.

It's a lovely feeling when someone thinks about your future, with or without him. He cares and he cares enough to think of you and what you'll be someday. But of course, he also wants to be in it someday.

It's a nice feeling when you can be who you really are with that person. No pretentions, no lies, no hypocrisy, because he accepts you for who you are. You can be funny, you can be embarrased, but it won't matter coz it doesn't matter to him. Trust and faith in each other keeps you alive. And it will always do.

It's good to know that you have someone who'll not have the intentions of breaking your heart. Instead, he would be willing to mend it, picking up the broken pieces of your heart that your past love have scattered in the ground. He may not be able to put the pieces back to where they really belong, but you shouldn't mind, because he had repaired that heart of yours, and he fixed it in his own way. He loves you in his own way, not the way your past did. He fixed your heart in a different way, to keep you from feeling the pains of your past heartache and to make you feel, the love, that he's unselfishly giving.

It's a great feeling when that person has every effort to let you feel what he feels for you. Because of the distractions, you may not hear him shout it to the world, but as long as you feel it, his efforts has paid off, big time. And when you feel the same way too... He'd feel as if he's the luckiest person alive.

... when in fact, you're more blessed to have him.

Every woman should know

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
HOW TO QUIT A JOB
BREAK UP WITH A LOVER
AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
When to try harder... And
WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That she can't change
The length of her calves,
The width of her hips, or
The nature of her parents...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That her childhood
May not have been Perfect...
But; It's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and Wouldn't
Do for love or money...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to live alone...
Even if She doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Whom she can trust, Whom she can't,
And why she shouldn't Take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go..
Be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
Or a charming inn in the woods...
When her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish
In a day...
A month...
And a year...

written by a guy

Message:
men don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/ gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you.

The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me.

Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood I'min.

let us pay for you! don't "feel bad" We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say "thank you."

Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us.If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her mj's. or myshirt and boxers, not all dolled up

Don't take everything we sayseriously. [=))]

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.

Don't get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

"Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown,Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us".It's boring, and we don't care. You have friends for that.

Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful" i'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Heybaby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of. on the other hand I'm not saying i wouldn't like it ether ; )

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, won't wait for him to change. ditch his sorry ASS, he's a disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.

Someone who will honor your morals.

Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.

Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.

Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.

Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....

and say "i love you"

..and actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance.

*Holding Hands
Girls :
If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.

Guys :
Grab it if it happens more than once.

*Cuddling
Girls :
When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you're cold

Guys : Automatically move closer to her.

*Movies
Girls :
During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder

Guys :
Lift her chin up and kiss her.

*Loving each other
Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her too... And mean it.

*Laying below the stars
Girls :
When you're both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat

Guys :
Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.

In Finding Love

Find for yourself someone whose: Not necessarily rich, but classy and not afraid to be goofy at times.

Not necessarily stunningly handsome/beautiful, but can be whenever he/she wants to.

Not necessarily conservative, but values himself/herself enough to live life with limits and set for himself/herself rules ( that can bend ONLY for you )

Love someone whose heart have been broken, so he/she knews exactly how it feels, and wont breaks yours...

10 things to avoid when in a relatonship

1. never flirt when your taken
2. never fall inlove to others, stay inlove with your partner
3. never lie
4. never go out without your partners permission
5. never go out for a date with other person
6. never do things that will hurt your partner
7. never stay quiet, say your feelings when your hurting
8. never call or text a person when you know your partner would be jealous
9. never kiss and hug with an opposite sex
10. never say PROMISES if you cant keep

11 painful things

1.bringing back the feeling you've learned to forget
2. reminising the good times
3. trying to hide what you've really feeling
4. loving someone who loves another
5. having a commitment with someone that you know wouldn't last
6. fighting back the love you're feeling
7. loving a person too much
8. right love at the wrong time
9. taking risk to fall in love again
10. accepting that it was never meant to be
11. what ifs..

only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived:

Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love.

One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave.

Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, love decided it was time to leave.

She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, Richness, Can I come with u on ur boat? Richness answered, I’m sorry, but there is a lot of silver & gold on my boat & there would be no room for u anywhere. Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried out, Vanity, help me please. I can't help u, Vanity said, "u are all wet & will damage my beautiful boat.

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, Sadness please let me go with u. Sadness answered, Love, I'm sorry, but I just need to be alone now. Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, Happiness, please take me with u. But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry. Then, she heard a voice say, Come Love, I will take u with me. It was an elder. Love felt so blessed & overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name.

When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledge & asked who was it that helped me? It was Time, Knowledge answered. But why did Time help me when no one else would? Love asked. Knowledge smiled & with deep wisdom & sincerity, answered, Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is….

Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century. And moreover Time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It reminds us to cherish each moment, because it will never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we have lived…

thought.

"Where does it come from, this quest? This need to solve life's mysteries when the simplest of questions can never be answered? Why are we here? What is the soul? Why do we dream? Perhaps we'd be better off not looking at all. Not delving, not yearning. But that's not human nature. Not the human heart. That is not why we are here. Yet still we struggle to make a difference, to change the world, to dream of hope, never knowing for certain who we will meet along the way. Who among the world of strangers will hold our hand, touch our hearts, and share the pain and triumph? We dream of hope, we dream of change, of fire, of love, of death. And then it happens; the dream becomes real, and the answer to this quest, this need to solve life's mysteries finally shows itself like the glowing light of the new dawn. So much struggle for meaning, for purpose. And in the end, we find it only in each other. Our shared experience of the fantastic and the mundane. The simple human need to find a kindred. To connect. And to know in our hearts... that we are not alone."

the Wedding

i read this at a friend's site. and i had just to post this. this is not my story or a friend's. this is just so bittersweet. and sadyang not meant to be. damn...

My knees were shaking as I glanced at him, "my ex-boyfriend".. he's with someone malamang girlfriend nya.
I pretend na di ko cia nakita, but he grabbed my shoulder bag at napalingon ako.. alam ko cia ang humila ng bag ko.. "chesk" (as usual na tawag nya sa akin) at parang wala lang, I said "hi" kanina pa daw nya ako nakita hindi lang daw ako namamansin, sabi ko na lang cencia, I was busy fixing my things, sabay smile.
he asked me If I received the invitation of his wedding..saka ko lang naalala ikakasal na nga pala cia, kelan? 3 days from now..date pa yun ng anniversary namin.. the man I loved before is announcing the date of his wedding with this curly haired lady in front of me.. the man who's deeply in love with me before..*sigh**..

it's been 2 years since we last talked, siguro masasabi kong.. I missed him, so much... hindi lang talaga maganda ang naging paghihiwalay namin, may mga bagay talaga na dapat ayusin, mga bagay na nasira sa mga hindi inaasahang pangyayari.. pero akala ko lang pala yon, akala ko lang na magiging maayos ang lahat.
as I opened the invitation,napansin ko agad ang date.. anniversary nga namin dati.. una kong naisip inaasar nya ako tamang ganti lang sa mga ginawa ko noon.. pero hindi ako nagpaasar. Eto nga at nakikipagchikahan pa ako sa harap ng kanyang fiancée. Bakit? Dahil ba wala lang sa akin? Ayos lang na makipagbolahan ako dito sa kanilang dalawa??.. O magaling lang ako magtago ng nararamdaman? Ang hirap kaya ng ginagawa ko ngayon, trying to be nice with them.

Naah!! Nagsisi na ako noon, ayoko na magsisi ulit ngayon. Gusto kong ipakita sa kanya na masaya ako para sa kanilang dalawa. oo dapat may ayusin pa akong mga bagay bagay, pero naisip ko para saan pa? wala naman na akong babalikan, wala naman na akong pagbabawian sa kasalanang nagawa ko.. pero kung alam nya lang..sobrang nagsisi ako sa mga nangyari.. kung alam nya lang kung anong mga gusto kong sabihin ngayon..
hindi ko cia iniwan, nawala lang ako saglit para ihulma ang sarili ko sa kung sino mang gusto nyang maging ako..pero cympre hindi nya ako naintindihan…pero umaasa ako na kahit papano..sana.. alam nya yon..

"we have to go cheska" nasabi ng kanyang fiancée, "aasahan ka namin sa kasal"
"ah.. uhm yah.. p-pupunta ako" ngiti lang sakin si Ace
"c-congratulations.." habol ko pa

*hinga ng malalim**..

*Sa Church**
Exactly 2pm kami dumating sa church..kasama ko best friend kong si Jelai chinika na agad nya ako, ano daw ba ang nararamdaman ko na hindi ako ang bride ni Ace, sagot ko "wala lang".. She just smiled at me, thinking that "wala lang" nga talaga.. pero kung alam nya lang, I wanted to shout in front of everybody.. gusto kong ipaalam na ako ang dapat na inaabangan ng lahat ngayon..
pero hndi pa ako baliw para gawin ang mga walang kwentang bagay na yon dahil lang sa lalaking mahal ko pa rin "ata"?

after 10mins, the ceremony started.

I noticed the motif, it was pink..my favorite color. I asked the girl beside me kung sinong nag asikaso ng lahat ng ito.. she said si Ace daw.. tango lang ako..

as I was quietly sitting there.. while watching the couples, there was a girl beside them who motioned forward to pick her microphone. Sabi ko medyo malilibang na ako, gusto ko kasing nakakapanood ng mga kumakanta..
afterwards, she started to sing..
*pause**..
I know the song.. I almost cried when I hear that.. that's our theme song.. how dare him played that song na nandito ako.. hindi ko magets kung ano man ang gusto nyang palabasin? Kung nananadya ba cia? O talagang inaasar nya lang ako?..

"you may now kiss your bride"..

Di ko na napansing natapos ang kanta dahil sa mga sunod sunod na pumasok sa isip ko.

..he looked at me first before he kissed his wife..
gusto ko ciang batuhin ng sapatos ko sa mga ginagawa nya..kelangan kong makahanap ng tiyempo para maconfront cia.. para maintindihan ko ang mga nangyayari.. pinag kakaisahan ba nila ako? O feeling ko lang yun?..

tapos na ang kasal, hindi na maganda ang mood ko, bakit pa kasi ako nag-i-stay? Lalo lang akong naiinsulto sa mga nakikita ko sa paligid, mas maraming bagay lang akong nakikita na nagpapaalala noong kami pa.. I really have to go, I have no purpose of being here.. *kinakausap ko na ang sarili ko** walang lingon lingon akong naglakad papalayo.. kelangan kong makalabas ng simbahan agad..

sige cheska, almost there..
It was two steps away from the opened door of the church when unexpectedly..
"where are you going?"

I slowly faced him with teary eyes,
there was a long awkward pause.

"what are you doing??"

i looked straight at him.. "that was supposed to be.. my question.."
his eyes were full of questions.. we just stared at each other..

after a few seconds, I sighed more heavily.. and then..

"how dare you play our song in your wedding ceremony?,
how dare you pick my favorite color as your motif?,
how dare you choose our anniversary date as your wedding date?"
my tears falling freely.. "how dare you look at me before you kiss your wife?"..

Ace looked straight at me, and after a few seconds of silence..
"because that's the last and only way I could.. imagine you're my wife"…

when someone breaks your heart.

What happens when someone breaks your heart?

When someone breaks your heart, first you are shocked. Someone will say you are heartbroken and you examine the words break and heart and heartbroken and you immediately decide that it’s inaccurate. You feel pain in the region of your heart and you think it’s your heart breaking but one’s heart doesn’t really break, something else does – FAITH. You stop believing.

No not in the big things which are most of the time irrelevant. You still believe in God or Buddha or some Supreme Being, you still believe child prostitution is bad. You just stop believing in the small things that you do, the small things that give meaning to your daily life, and you begin to think everything is pointless: Why get up? Why dress up? Why breathe in and out? What for? What for?

When someone breaks your heart (your faith), you stop believing and you switch off the lights inside your heart.

Someone is home but that someone is lying in the dark, in the room farthest from the gate, and that someone can’t hear anything. Friends, parents, they all call out to her from the gate (“Come out” which means “Move on”) but they are unheard, unseen, unacknowledged.

When someone breaks you heart, you turn into a small ball of self-pity. You lie in bed, in a ball. You hug your knees, keeping them close to your chest, like a fetus. Freud said its human instinct to go back to the womb where you feel safe.

But that’s what happens when someone breaks your heart – they steal the very thing that makes you feels safe, whole, intact.


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From the book I read countless of times…

“MR. WRITE”

By M.D. Balangue

A True Boyfriend

If i dont call you
[ Its because im waiting for you to
call me ]

When i walk away from you mad
[ Follow me ]

When i stare at your mouth
[ Kiss me ]

When i push you or hit you
[ Grab me and dont let go ]

When i start cussing at you
[ Kiss me and tell me you love me ]

When im quiet
[ Ask me whats wrong ]

When i ignore you
[ Give me your attention ]

When i pull away
[ Pull me back ]

When you see me at my worst
[ Tell me im beautiful ]

When you see me start crying
[Just hold me and dont say a word ]

When you see me walking
[ Sneak up and hug my waist from
behind ]

When im scared
[ Protect me ]

When i lay my head on your shoulder
[ Tilt my head up and kiss me ]

When i steal you favorite hat
[ Let me keep it and sleep with it for
a night]

When i tease you
[ Tease me back and make me laugh ]

When i dont answer for a long time
[ reassure me that everything is okay ]

When i look at you with doubt
[ Back yourself up ]

When i say that i like you
[ I really do more than you could
understand ]

When i grab at your hands
[ Hold mine and play with my fingers ]

When i bump into you
[ bump into me back and make me laugh ]

When i tell you a secret
[ keep it safe and untold ]

When i look at you in your eyes
[ dont look away until i do ]

When i miss you
[ im hurting inside ]

When you break my heart
[ the pain never really goes away ]

When i say its over
[ i still want you to be mine ]

When i repost this bulletin
[ i want you to read it ]

- Stay on the phone with her even if
shes not saying anything.

- When she's mad hug her tight and
don't let go then kiss her

- When she says she's ok dont believe
it talk with her

- because 10 yrs later she'll remember
you Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

- Call her before you sleep and after
you wake up

- Treat her like she's all that matters
to you.

- Tease her and let her tease you back.

- Stay up all night with her when she's
sick.
- Watch her favorite movie with her.

- Give her the world.

- Let her wear your clothes.

- When she's bored and sad, hang out
with her.

- Let her know she's important.

- Kiss her in the pouring rain.

- When she runs up at you crying, the
first thing you say is;
"Who's ass am I kicking?"

- Hold her and never want to let go.

101 Things I Learned About Girls and Relationships

1. Never indulge her with too many gifts. Whether it be chocolate, jewelry, flowers, or etc. Teach her to appreciate.

2. Appreciate her.

3. Never give her too much attention. Don’t make her the center of your life. Prioritize.

4. Find a hobby. Be passionate about something. Girls like passionate guys.

5. Prevent yourself from jumping into conclusions. Listen to both sides of the story.

6. If she jumped into a conclusion, patiently tell her your side of the story.

7. If she tells you she needs space, then give her space. No need to call her innumerable amounts. Give her time.

8. If she hangs up on you, call her back. If she doesn't pick up, try calling her once again. However, if she still doesn't pick up, give her some time. Wait until she calls back or call her back tomorrow.

9. Never, under any circumstances, hang up on her.

10. We all know men are horny. But no need to excessively show it. It's a turn off.

11. Don't be so touchy. Let her know your relationship isn't based on lust.

12. Don't be afraid to sing for her, even if you think you have a horrible voice. She'll love it.

13. Don't be timid around her friends. It's important to leave good impressions on them.

14. Make a CD for her with her favorite songs.

15. Make a CD for her with your favorite songs.

16. Be confident. Girl's like confident guys.

17. Don't be scared to reveal your soft side.

18. But, don't be soft all the time. Show her your tough side once in awhile. Take care of her.

19. Trust her. You don't need to know every place she goes, every guys she talks with, etc. She'll gradually, and slowly, gain your trust.

20. Trust yourself.

21. Don't call her when you're drunk.

22. Don't question her about her past boyfriends, or what bases she has gone up to. Not until you guys trust each other, and in a stable relationship.

23. If she told you, don't bring it up again next time. Don't get jealous.

24. Never talk to her when you're extensively infuriated. You will talk out of your ass and remorse with much regrets later on.

25. When mad, calmly tell her you need time. When toned down, gently justify your reasons for getting mad.

26. Keep a daily diary. Give it to her in your anniversary.

27. Take pictures with her.

28. Take pictures of her.

29. Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.

29. Keep a picture of you two in your wallet.

30. Cook for her.

31. Cook together.

32. Bake cookies/cupcakes for her.

33. Bake cookies/cupcakes together.

34. Learn to be aggressive, when appropriate.

35. Learn to take chances and risks.

36. Mark her birthday, your anniversaries, her parent's birthday, her sibling’s birthday and other important dates on your calendar.

37. Keep a good relationship with her parents.

38. Don't be afraid to hold her hands in public.

39. Instead of going to the theatre, rent movies at a local store and watch it at your/her house.

40. Watch Disney/kid movies together.

41. Compliment her.

42. However, don't excessively indulge her with compliments.

43. Never lie. Even if you believe it's for the better of both of you, don't. Always be honest.

44. Joke around and be immature. Liberate yourself.

45. Learn to be serious when time calls.

46. Go shopping together. Hold the bags for her, no matter how minimal.

47. Draw a picture of her for her. Even if you're the worst artist in the world.

48. Let her draw you.

49. Subtly, leave a note on her pillow.

50. Engage in sports together.

51. Accept her for who she is, despite her flaws and her past mistakes.

52. Teach her how to drive (no matter how bad she may be. Actually... well..).

53. Go for a jog/run.

54. Go for a walk.

55. No need to pay attention to rumours from her/your friends. Talk to her about it. Not them.

56. Smell good.

57. Don't be afraid to smile. No matter how ugly you think your smile may be.

58. Always be there for her. No matter how nominal her problems may seem.

59. No need to hide your imperfections. Humans are only fallible.

60. Go to the library together.

61. Study together; I mean, actually study.

62. Recommend her your favorite book.

64. Introduce her to your family.

65. Be silly. Learn to embarrass yourself in front of her once in awhile.

66. Hold her hand when you're driving.

67. Give her a massage.

68. Fall asleep on the phone together.

69. Turn on a soft/classical music while she's asleep on the phone.

70. Remember every little, insignificant things she tell you/say.

71. Write her a poem.

72. Recite it to her.

73. Compose a song for her.

74. Sing it for her.

75. Make her a scrapbook.

76. Don't be afraid to go buy a tampon/pad for her.

77. Go grocery shopping together.

78. If you want her to open up, try opening up first.

79. Don't try to hide your tears in front of her.

80. Wish her goodnight every night.

81. Feed her.

82. Let her feed you.

83. Don't have high expectations. You'll only be let down.

84. Pray for her. Aloud.

85. Pray with her.

86. Rid of your pride.

87. Open the door for her.

88. Be patient.

89. Smile at her.

90. Cherish her.

91. Thank her.

92. Drink tea together.

93. Never drive aggressively when you're mad - at least when she's in the car.

94. Pick out a seashell for her at the beach.

95. Win her a doll at a boardwalk.

96. Take sticker pictures together.

97. Go trick-or-treating together.

98. Let her do your nails.

99. Let her wear your clothes.

100. Watch her favorite movie together.

Last, but not the least, and most importantly,

101. Always be yourself.

to those girls

Here's to all those girls who used to be his number one.

The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed.

The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, and moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in months later like nothing ever happened.

Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going.

The ones who listened to him say, I only want to be your friend, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves and misses you.

We deserve something, and this is our tribute.

Here's to the ones that took him back, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really do change.

We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught crap from our parents, and even snuck around to see him for while. We went through the great stage with no fights all over again. We started this out thinking it would be just friends, and ended up falling in love with him again. We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too, that even though things were bad in the past, they would be different this time. And when we finally heard it, it was like we were dreaming. This is for us.

Here's to the ones who believed what he said, sat around all over again waiting for a phone call that might come in a few hours, or a few days.

Here's for the tears cried and dried all over again.

We wanted so desperately to believe that he was really busy, he couldn't possibly call us at that moment, or even that he fell asleep early. We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us. We learned to SETTLE for someone who didn't treat us the way we should be treated.

Here's for the ones who did their hair and make up and put on their prettiest earrings, only to hear him say that he couldn't see us today.

The ones who never believed it when people told us there might be someone else. We just couldn't believe that he could do this to us again.

This is for those great girls, who loved him more than words can say, and took him back no matter what happened last time because they couldn't bear to look back on their lives one day and wonder "what if".

This is for the girls that stayed up all night long listening to him whine about an ex girlfriend who cheated on him, and cried during the entire conversation.

The ones who hoped he would realize that he deserved better, that he deserved us. When he said that he loved you, but he was in love with her, he didn't mean it.

This is for the ones that held on to something that was never there to begin with.

This is for us girls, who somehow managed to get him to forget about her, and get him to tell us that he was in love with us again, only to have him tell us three weeks later that "things were going too fast, he needs time."

Here's to the girls who couldn't cry to their friends because of how stupid they felt.

The ones who held it all in when things came crumbling to pieces again.

This is for the ones who couldn't bear to even tell their mom what was going on, for fear of an "I told you so."

The ones that could just TELL that they had made a mistake ever allowing him into their hearts, and their dreams again.

We knew that we deserved better the entire time, that we deserved a guy who would call when he said he was going to, one that would come see us whenever he got the chance, one that would really care about us. We just wanted the one that we loved like that.

Here's for the ones that FINALLY realized that he never gave a crap about them.

Here's for the time that he broke your heart again.

This is for those days spent trying to hold back the tears, and the tears that turned into anger, then disappointment.

Here's for us girls who finally realized that we deserve better.

This is for those confusing days, when you miss him, and want nothing more than to hear his voice, or feel his arms around your waist.

Stay strong, and remember that relationships are like broken glass, sometimes it's better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together and get hurt.

Remember the times you cried, and how long it took you to even be able to look at another guy like that.

When "your song" comes on the radio, turn the station. When the day comes that he realizes what a mistake he made and tries calling, turn your phone off. When he tries coming to your house, don't answer the door.

Think of the broken promises, and the lies, the manipulation and the tears, the wasted moments and staying up all night wondering where the crap he was. Think of how your heart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night, and how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn't him, and realized that once again, he hadn't called when he said he was going to.

One day, you'll find a guy who's worth all the tears, but he won't make you cry. You may think that you'll never care about someone like you did that guy that you always ran back to, but you will. It's gonna hurt like crap! And it's going to need time to heal, but the point is, it will heal.

This is for those girls, who fell back in love with their ex, only to get hurt all over again.


HMMMMMMMM....


Just remember that in time, it will heal...Just dance with the music, whether it goes too slow or too fast... -NINA

Live. Love. Dance.

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. As one man said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time... and remember that time waits for no one...
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning,until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy...

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

"Work like you don't need money,

Love like you've never been hurt,

And dance like no one's watching. "

just tips for the men.

1. When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.
2. When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before giving her a heartfelt apology.
3. A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship is over.)
4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.
5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she melts.
6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually is not sure how to react to them.
7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl a lot, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stares okie?
8. If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.
9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still want to be friends, talk to her.
10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).
11. Never tell a girl that she is useless in any way.
12. Being too serious can turn a girl off.
13. When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start calling her friends to spread the news.
14. A smile means a lot to a girl.
15. If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.
16. If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave her alone.
17. But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.
18. Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.
19. Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that, she is beautiful.
20. After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.
21. If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.
22. When class pictures come out, a girl would first look at the girl next to her crush before actually looking at herself.
23. A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves will always stay in her heart.
24. Girls love to have fun!
25. A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.
26. A girl's best friend usually knows best what she is feeling and going through.
27. Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.
28. Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.
29. Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them....

101 Ways to show you love somebody!

1. Tell the other person that you love them
2. Give or get a hug
3. Make sure the other person feels important and respected
4. Kiss when people are looking
5. Kiss when people aren't looking
6. Tell the other person that you care
7. Hold hands
8. Go for a long bike ride
9. Give a special present
10. Be there when they need a friend
11. Spend time together
12. Go to see a film
13. Walk arm in arm in the woods
14. Make a special tape of love songs
15. Talk about your feelings
16. Share dreams with each other
17. Snuggle up together
18. Sit together in the park
19. Take a walk together
20. Go out for a meal
21. Have a picnic
22. Play a game of frisbee
23. Give compliments
24. Relax in a jacuzzi
25. Go swimming
26. Just be close
27. Go shopping for food
28. Cook a meal together
29. Touch each other in a loving way
30. Do homework together
31. Plan and go on a trip together
32. Throw a party together
33. Bake a cake
34. Go to the library
35. Browse in a museum
36. Just be there
37. Find out what's special for the other person - and do it
38. Exercise together
39. Gaze at each other
40. Wash each other's cars (or bikes !)
41. Go fishing
42. Talk to each other
43. Listen to worries
44. Cut each other's toenails
45. Choose a special favourite song
46. Listen to joys
47. Hold one another close
48. Catch their eye
49. Write one another letters
50. Talk on the telephone
51. Trust one another
52. Give or receive a ring
53. Meet each other's family
54. Go hiking together
55. Make sacrifices for each other
56. Send chocolates
57. Respect each other
58. Go for a moonlight walk
59. Hide a love note where the other will find it
60. Give each other sexy looks
61. Write a poem
62. Send flowers
63. Eat dinner by candlelight
64. Go to a concert
65. Watch the sunrise together
66. Remember anniversaries
67. Give each other pet names
68. Go sightseeing
69. Rent a video
70. Do things for each other without being asked
71. Propose marriage
72. Whisper something nice into the other's ear
73. Be best friends
74. Have fun together
75. Go out dancing
76. Play music together
77. Flirt with each other
78. Laugh at something funny together
79. Be faithful
80. Impress each other
81. Make a list of things you like about each other
82. Read a book and discuss it
83. Meet each other's friends
84. Go horse riding
85. Cook each other's favourite food
86. Find out what makes each other happy
87. Make presents for each other
88. Wash each other's hair
89. Watch the sunset
90. Go for a bus trip
91. Have a request played on the radio
92. Send a funny card
93. Share your plans for the future
94. Play footsie
95. Share private jokes
96. Think about each other
97. Find out what makes the other sad #
98. Go skating
99. Swap rings
100. Share an ice-cream
101. Have your picture taken together

Love and what's it supposed to be..

"Love is like a butterfly.
The more you chase it, themore it eludes you..
But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expexct it..
Love can make you happy but it hurts,
but love is only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it..
So take your time and chose the best.."

"Love isn't about becoming somebody else's 'perfect person'..
It's about finding someone who helps you became the best person you can be.."

"The true measure of Compatibility is not the years spent together,,
but how good you are for each other.."

"Love is not about 'it's ur fault', but 'i'm sorry'..
Not 'where are you', but 'i'm right here'..
Not 'how could you', but 'I understand'..
Not 'I wish you were', but 'i'm thankful you are'"...

"Heartbroken last as long as you want
and cut as deep as you allow them to go..
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks..
But to Learn from them.."

"How to be in love::
Be consistent but not too persistent,,
Share and never be unfair,,
Understand and try not to demand..
And get hurt but never keep the feeling.."

"It breaks my heart to see the one you love
Happy with someone else...
But it's more painful to know that the one you love
Is UnHappy with you.."

"Love hurts when you break up wtih someone..
It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you..
But Love Hurts the Most:
When the person you love has no idea how you feel about him/her"

"A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fal in love,,
only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be,,
and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn'y worth it..
If that person isn't worth it now,,
it's not going to be wort it a year or 10 years from now.."

"My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is:
Honest, strong, mature, never changing, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish..."

Q & A about Life

Question:
How can I love someone without expecting that he/she is going to love me too?

Answer:
Real love is patient; unselfish and entails sacrifice. Kumbaga, kapag totoong mahal mo ang isang tao, you will just want what’s best for the other person – even if the “best” for that person does not include you. Like a text message sa cellphone kaya may space ung mga kamay natin kasi there’s someone out there in the universe that will fill that empty space, ‘wag kang magmadali.

Question:
How can you know if he/she is the one or the one you will be with forever?

Answer:
People say get to know the person, spend time with the person. TLW says get to know God the author of love. Spend time everyday with God asking if this is the person. He’ll show you. Just trust Him!

Question:
How will you know that you’re in love (true love)?

Answer:
Kapag in love ka daw, you’re not your usual self, medyo kakaiba ang mga kilos, parang wala sa sarili. You find yourself daydreaming, yung mukha niya laging sumasagi sa isip mo. The mere mention of the person’s name makes your heart leap. Hehe. Sorry to disappoint you friends pero, that’s not the nature of TRUE LOVE. Ang tawag dun ay ‘infatuation’.
They say LOVE is a many splendored thing it’s correct, because the one who puts LOVE in our heart is a Splendor, Wonderful, Mighty and Awesome GOD. And if you know Him, He will show you and guide you in finding TRUE LOVE.

Question:
Is it possible to fall in love in a short period of time?

Answer:
Sa panahon ngayon we are bombarded with different ideas, thoughts about LOVE kahit saan, sa text, sa internet, sa kapitbahay, kahit kanino pwede tayong makakakuha ng sagot sa tanong mo. Ako rin siyempre if you have a Bible with you open it at ECCLESIASTES 3 entitles A TIME FOR EVERYTHING. Sa verse 8 sabi niya, “He sets the time for love and time for hate, the time for war and the time for peace…” I myself cannot tell you if you’re gonna be in love in a short period of time but I know the One who can tell you: it’s GOD Himself. Do you wanna know how? You need to pray for it. Ask Him and He’ll gladly answer you back and as for me hindi naman tayo lumabas sa mundo na matanda na agad, dumaan din tayo sa pagiging bata, teenager, blah, blah… ganon din ang pag-ibig, hindi yan INSTANT FASTFOOD… niluluto po ang pag-ibig parang adobo - habang tumatagal sumasarap!!!

Question:
How can you avoid being jealous if you love someone?

Answer:
First ask yourself the question, “Why am I jealous?” Jealousy is rooted in fear - or more specifically - insecurity. You may be insecure that your girlfriend thinks the hunk sa kabilang bahay has bigger biceps than you. If you truly love and trust your girlfriend, you wouldn’t be jealous. If your girlfriend can’t be trusted because she IS cheating, well… that’s another story. Sometimes, your jealousy can be dispelled just by clearing things up with the person you love. Make sure that you’re not overreacting… be objective and don’t be afraid to ask them para maiwasan ang gulo sa una pa lang. Pinsan niya pala yung kapitbahay

After getting into a serious and intimate talk about Zen Buddhism, I came to realize that in order for a person to be happy and contented one must live with the present, and not with the past nor with the future. Ever wondered why people always tend to hurt the ones they love, and themselves as well? Let’s take an example. There’s this stranger in the park. He is writing about his/her life (with his self as the center of the story). You are there on the other side, writing your own story (with your self as the center of the story). Would you care to know what that stranger is writing about? Obviously not for he/she is nobody. But what if that person wasn’t a stranger, let’s say he or she is your boyfriend/girlfriend, would you care? Of course, who would not? (well that goes for all the self-centered people in this world). There’s this stigma embedded in our tiny twisted brains that we are created to make an impact on this other person’s life. We want to be appreciated and all that sort of wanting including the desire to be at the center of his or her life. But man, come to think of it, the only person who will be in the center of ones life is himself or herself. You cannot and must not try to change this fact because it is something that can’t be altered. Everything that a person would desire and long for will be at all times for the benefit of his or her own self. Mark that. Every negative emotion that we feel, angst, stress, jealousy, etc. is caused by this SELFish desire, or simply by our SELF. So what do we do now? Simple, detach our “self” from ourSELVES. Instead of thinking too much about the how miserable our past and how our future will go (to apply it to the succeeding questions, let me retate it, how our future with this someone will go), it will be better if we just act on impulse and disregard all biases. If you feel like doing something, do it but do it with compassion (compassion=as long as nobody will be bothered by your act). Treat this other person as if he was just a stranger. Try to look at the situation/ event without that “special” person (again, there is bias if you’d treat him or her special) as society is not all about people but rather a correlation of events. It is basically event vs. person. In Zen Buddhism, you regard the event as the basis for making decisions and not the person involved in the event. You base your decisions on the situation, no regrets whatsoever. For example, somebody stepped on your foot. For sure if the perpetrator was a stranger you’d be red in anger but if it was your sweetie you wouldn’t care at all. Stupid, huh? The act was painful so act like it was painful. If in these events you would usually be angry then be. However, the ideas in Zen Buddhism aren’t the same as the lame idea of “going with the flow and living life”, it is a totally different philosophy. Hence, one doesn’t have to try to deal with the situation because as he/she does, he or she would have to think (again) and from there complications will be formed (once again). There, I think this is enough for now as the lecture was really long. I haven't gotten the idea of Zen perfectly yet, nor have i practiced it already but by merely looking at the examples set by my friend, I am convinced that this philosphy would truly make our lives worry free.

Question:
How can I love someone without expecting that he/she is going to love me too?

Answer:
(see above) Don’t think about the future. Don’t over analyze things, you’re thinking about the future when you can’t even make your present right. Live for today, that will be less stressful. For those in a relationship, and are troubled because they “feel” that they aren’t important and loved, cut the crap. You’re an individual and you would still be an individual even without having that someone to “love” you.

Analogy:
If all people on Earth will be dead. Would Earth still be existent? Of course, there’s Jupiter without people eh. Here’s the thing: If he/she treats you well, treat him/her well. If he/she gives you love, give him/her love. But if he/she doesn’t, don’t give anything either. -> from Hershey.

Question:
How can you know if he/she is the one or the one you will be with forever?

Answer:
Sorry but I don’t believe that there’s such thing as forever. We’re mortals for Pete’s sake. :)

Question:
How will you know that you’re in love (true love)?

Answer:
Only the person can tell. I don’t even want to think about it, I’d rather feel it to prove it is real. Compassion is the key. =p

Question:
Is it possible to fall in love in a short period of time?

Answer:
No comment.

Question:
How can you avoid being jealous if you love someone?

Answer:
Again, jealousy roots from thinking and making false assumptions. Like I said, stop thinking too much. But I must agree, trust is something that we should try to keep and to give to those worthy of it.

crossing paths with you was a coincidence,, i'll never regret nor forget coz you were one of those wonderful people i dreamed of having,, i'm so thankful that once in my life's journey,, i found you...

"...it hard to love someone, who's in love with someone else you have to ignore the pain and swallow your pride just to be a friend, but it all worth it coz sometimes friendship lasts longer than love...."

Love Actually

Once upon a time, there was a woman, who had a conversation with God. And it went something like this…

Woman: Lord, I’ve been the wedding planner for my dream nuptials since high school. I’m graduating right now, never been kissed, and still longing for my first romance. I won’t be forever young, you know.

God: Child, somewhere in time, I wrote everyone’s love story:

• Adam asked, “When did You create this perfect woman?,” and I said, “while you were sleeping.”
• For Kate and Leopold, he was her first knight.
• When Harry met Sally, he had learn many things in courtship,’twas almost like groundhog day, but their relationship ended always. There’s no formula, but I promise your love story will be as good as it gets.
  

W: Well, you’ve always been right. Hope floats. Lord, please don’t let me go through 50 first dates with true love remaining far and away.

G: I’ve been working on it. I just eliminated the 3 musketeers: Shrek, who only wanted a French kiss. Don Juan de Marco, always thinking of dirty dancing. And Robin Hood, who is such an untamed heart.

W: Puwede huwag naman pong parang beauty and the beast kami?

G: Child, you’re a pretty woman inside. He’ll be no ghost.

W: Can it start with a walk to remember?

G: (Smiling) Your true love won’t be at first sight, but it’ll be quite a phenomenon when you get up close and personal. He’ll have sense and sensibility, be a cutting edge guy and a good family man. Stay tune with my Word, pray, listen to other Christians. For one fine day…your top gun will be at the altar uttering the words “only you.”

W: Promise it’s going to be a walk in the clouds?

G: Ever after

W: (Beaming) Life is beautiful.

THE END

Can you relate to the article? (sighs) The point of the matter is, God wants you to have the BEST not the second best. He is not yet finish writing your love story. He is still preparing someone for you. Now, are you willing to wait?

With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgement.

Proverbs 3:5

how we loved each other that much, too much that it didnt work..

sometimes, we get hurt so much that each time we see the person who gave us pain, we see a flashback of what happened in our past.. every tear, every heartbreak that it gave us.. and each time we do, all we could remember is - how we loved each other that much, too much that it didnt work -

if it happens, it damn happens.. if it wasnt meant, it certainly doesnt.. dont push through, just let go.. dare not mock yourself chasing and caressing someone who didnt even care to understand you.. it sucks, ait? but it sucks a lot if you dont give up.. love, value and care for yourself.. coz if you wont nobody would..

When “FRIENDS” become more….

From: unknown source

Falling in love with someone whose been close to you is a very common scenario. It isn’t surprising that you would fall in love with your friend. After all, that friend is already someone you like and whom you feel comfortable. It is often someone you already spend a great deal of time with someone with whom you spent a thousand of hours on the internet. You know this person likes and dislikes, concerns, and deepest insecurities. And this person knows yours.
So what’s the problem?
Well, first of all, these feelings are not always mutual, the friend may want to remain just that – a friend. There is also discomfort that occurs when the other person knows you feel “differently”. Oftentimes he or she feels guilty or maybe even threatened. Whatever it is that the other is feeling, it can still become very complicated.
Once again, honesty is always the best policy, even if it seems like being honest will mess things up, possibly even destroy a perfect good friendship, it is always the best way to go. In the long run, you won’t regret it.
I know of many times when friends have become girlfriend and boyfriend and everyone ended up happy. But even when the relationship thing doesn’t work out, with honesty, the friendship can survive and even become stronger.
So, if you like your friend, as more than a friend, hang in there. Don’t give up hope, because things will work out, one way or another.

15 LAWS FOR WOMEN:

Don’t imagine you can change a man – unless he’s in diapers
What do you do if your boyfriend walks out?? – shut the door.
If they put a man on the moon – they should be able to put them all up there.
Never let your man’s mind wander.
Go for younger men.
Men are all the same – they just have different faces.
Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some women miserable. Women don’t make fools of men.
The best way to get a man to do something – suggest they’re too old for it.
10. Love is blind – but marriage is a real eye opener.
11. If you want a committed man – look in a mental hospital.
12. The children of Palestine wandered around the desert for 40 years, even in biblical times, men wouldn’t ask for directions.
13. If he asks what sort of books you’re interested in, tell him “checkbooks”
14. Remember a sense of humor does not men that you tell him jokes; it means that you laugh at his.
15. Sadly, all men are created equal.

MEN.

For all those men who say, "Why buy a cow, when you can get milk for free? Here's an update for you: Now days, 80% of women are against marriage. WHY? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!!!

MEN are like....
1. Men are like.......Laxatives .......They irritate the crap out of you.
2. Men are like....... Bananas.......The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like....... Weather.......Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like.......Blenders .......You need one, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like....... Chocolate Bars.......Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like....... Commercials ........You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like....... Department Stores.......Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like....... Government Bonds.......They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like.......Mascara .......They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like....... Popcorn.......They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like....... Snowstorms.......You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like.......Lava Lamps .......Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like....... Parking Spots.......All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.